I feel for all the people on here who have lost dear loved ones and I am having trouble trying to cope im on the verge of just giving up I know my partner who ive lost would not want that but thats so easy to say but does not help one tiny bit.
Love and hugs to everyone.
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@Kenny I am sorry for you Kenny . I am at 4 and half months and it is still very painful but I have to go on for my Andrew . I hope you get lots of support from this site .
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Thank you x
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Kennym
I’m sorry to see you here on this forum as it means one thing and one thing only,that you have lost the love of your life and the pain is just horrendous.
First of all it’s a good thing that you are posting on here as more often than not it helps just to write down what you are feeling. The truly brutal fact is that for you and every single one of us on here the short term future is all about the pain of grieving at the loss of those we love, there will be tears, thoughts of not wanting to go on, the lonely days and nights and every thing you see and hear will remind you of your partner … and the circle will start again, it’s perfectly normal for us. Not too long ago I was literally two steps away from walking into the sea, since then I ask what stopped me and it was simply the thought that my wife would have been horrified with me at giving in.
Our lives for now are about coping in any way that we can,the tears,the pain,the loneliness are things no one else will understand other than those who have been there.
My advice for what it’s worth is to accept the pain,let the tears flow,don’t look to the future and get through each hour as best you can. Nothing will stop the way we feel,there isn’t a quick fix,we are in this because we love someone more than life but sadly they are now with us in a different form.
Without that deep love for your partner you wouldn’t be suffering as you are now, it’s looking like we can’t have one without the other so as I say we have this pain with us until we learn to live around it.
Stick with us,one day we will look back and smile … but not yet.
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Hi miker everything you say is me your posting has helped me greatly i thank you for that it will be exactly 1 year in 2weeks time 13th October that i lost my darling wife of 44 years miss her badly i thought like you and yes you are right our ladies wouldn’t want us like this once again thank you
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Thank you.
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@miker Everything you’ve said is so true! We are only grieving because we’ve loved and been loved and a wouldn’t swap that for the world! J x
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yea in that state too, it feels your heart has been ripped out and broken in 2, and that feeling dose not go away, grief is soul destroying.
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Hi Kenny
Sorry for your loss. Its hard to think we will never see our loved ones ever again. Im two years into my nightmare and still think of him everyday. Its such early days for you just take each day as it comes and dont expect to much from yourself. I see you live near me . Sending hugs 
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@miker you explained it well about how we all feel at the moment . You can’t imagine the pain of it hasn’t happened to you .
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Misprint get back to me ive no idea what area you are in but you mentioned you are near to me anyway if you need a friend as I could do with one to get through this awful time please get back to me take care x
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Hi Miker.
My partner will have been gone two years on the 18th of this month. Everything you said strikes a chord with me .My heart broke when she passed away and continues to break every day. I have been posting on this site since she went and have found it a comfort to speak to other people in exactly the same boat as me. Now and again people have asked for practical advice and because sometimes Ive had the same experience Ive been able to offer advice through my experience , thats helped me thinking that maybe I might have helped someone else. I’d really like to tell everyone that eventually you come to terms with your loss and except it but I’ve reached the conclusion that thats not necessarily so.I don’t think that I will ever come to terms with it or except it. Life goes on. Its just the next chapter in your life I’ve heard them all. Not sure I believe any of it. Sorry yet again just feeling sorry for myself and everyone else on here. Best wishes to you.
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Hi kenny
Just read your message im in higham ferrers . I know what your going through. I cant say its got any easier because it hadn’t . Im here if you wish to chat.
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Yes will be lovely to keep in touch I work nights and this is my 1st night back at work since losing my partner 2 weeks ago and im not coping too well at all so im busy at the moment but would be nice to keep in touch. Take care for now x
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How was your first night back
Not good I broke down a couple of times I just couldnt help it im not coping well at all back in tonight again but thank you for caring message x
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Perhaps its to early to go back give yourself tome mate
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Hope you have a better night shift tonight thinking of you.
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Yeh … good point xc
I hope so just getting ready to leave soon thank you x
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