My colleague asked if I’d been away on holiday today.?I said no I’d had a week at home. But the world is your oyster now , no one to care for , free to enjoy yourself. Make the most if it she said. How do I say that I’d have continued caring for him indefinitely just to have him here and the thought of a holiday on my own with no one to share it with just doesn’t appeal. No one for me to say wow look at that view . Guess she doesn’t know grief.
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Those who haven’t been where we are have no idea what we are going through, you don’t have to explain yourself to anyone. Some people don’t stop and think before they voice an opinion. My daughter said to me tonight to do whatever feels right to me. Take care.
That’s so insensitive @Cooki but as you say they probably don’t understand or know how grief can change you and impact on all aspects of your life.
My sister in law phoned to invite me to a girls weekend away with her and my other 3 sisters in law.
I didn’t answer the phone so she left a message and I don’t know to reply. It really upset me as it’s only 6 months since my husband, her brother, died. Why would I want to go away for a drunken weekend now and how could I leave my 16 year old daughter at home alone when she is struggling.
I just feel it’s so insensitive. Especially as she hasn’t spoken to me in months.
Folk really have no idea.
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Wow. That’s so insensitive. They just don’t get it, do they?
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Cooki, you dont need to explain to anyone. I lost my husband in June 2024 of an aorta dissection. Unfortunately all this unfolded on 20th June and by Sunday 23rd June he sadly passed away. It is very raw and I find in very hard navigating these emotions. All i keep being told is you look very strong and so confident… if only they knew. I would give anything to have him by my side again. You take each day as it comes if you want people around you good but sometimes you might want to becaline with your thought this is also OK. There is no right or wrong way to grieve. Take care
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