Hi why am i in so much pain, its been 4 weeks since my beloved husband suddenly passed. And the funeral is on Thursday. For some reasons am in pain.my stomach is in knots.did anyone else feel like this.
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Hi @Sis2023
So sorry to here of your loss.
It is so early days for you although i remember them well. It has been 5 months for me since my husband passed away suddenly and unexpectedly after 35 years of marriage at 63. Up to the funeral i was kept busy with organising everything but still in shock and crying a lot not eating or sleeping properly my stomach feeling like knots and my mind unable to take everything in.
Everyone on this site have similar feelings but will give you support and guidance.
Please take it slowly look after yourself.
Some days will be better than others but some days will feel like you are back to square one. We dont want this new life but we survive to face the new day x
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Yep i certainly did xxx
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We certainly never chose it did we @Galaxy75 i think that’s what makes it so hard … having something taken away from you that you didnt want to have taken away 
xxx
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@Sis2023 . My love that’s how a lot of us felt at the first couple of months like your stomach is in a big knot . It’s the shock of losing someone so special to us . I will never forget that pain
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No neither will i … agonising !! Bad enough now but the at the beginning its just awful …its the stress i suppose i was reading about stress yesterday funnily enough and the symptoms are similar xxx
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I can relate to this about being in pain. I am also suffering because if I get a slight ache or pain , headache my thoughts go wild and I rethink all what has happened during the last 2 and half years.
I lost my husband 5 weeks ago, I knew it was going to be hard, but not this hard.
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Yeh thats what i said … exactly those words. I knew it was gonna be hard but not this hard xx
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Hia
@Yorklan @Deb5
Exactly nothing compares you for the pain 
in losing someone.
Take care have a good Tuesday x
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So true, we are all finding it so hard. I told him I’d be ok, but I’m not.
I feel sick all the time
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I know it is so hard without my love here … i loved spending time with him ! Why is life so very cruel ? Why did my lovely man have to go when there are so many idiots in my family who i would to see the back of ! X
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I feel the same pain, it’s so physical 
it’s the worst pain I have ever experienced. And my chest literally feels as if my heart will break, I hope this passes because I can’t live a life feeling like this it’s torture! X
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@Foreveryoung81 it is so unfair that we are in this boat together . Our tears are so much that we could nearly sink it but we have each others back so much that we keep afloat . It’s such a difficult time my love
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Yeh , really understand ! I actually didn’t think i was gonna survive at beginning !,i actually thought it was gonna kill me … and thsts not bring dramatic either i really did :(; it does pass but still get thst feeling of emptiness some days … flipping awful … tske care - we all need to take good care of ourselves. xxx
Yeh i always put my feelings into songs for some reason it helps ! I was thinking about thst song - cry me a river, i cried a river over you … they say its good to cry though to get the pain out xxxx
@ deb I was just the same I contemplated ways to go . The loss is such a massive shock I remember the intense knot I had and the intense fear . The only way I could survive was to sort all the phone calls and paperwork out or my heart would have exploded. I wanted to go first I told him over and over I wouldn’t be able to live without him . Oh debs
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Yeh , it wasn’t that i was necessarily gonna do anything - it was just the pain i felt - i thought that was gonna do for me ! It is so intense at the beginning especially but its still hard now some days isnt it ? Just not as hard x
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Also has your writing on your key pad gone really small -? @Hazel.1966 said hers has too ! How do we report it ? X
Yes it is hard to write as puts a strain on my eyes.
Really missing my husband so much that my heart is broken. 11 months for you today as well Debbie xx
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Yeh it is today - youre right. I had forgotten because i been busy getting ready for holiday was your husband 2 days before or after mine ?? Poor hazel. Hope youre ok? We lost lovely men havent we its not fair !!! Men who loved and supported us … with this writing on keyboard ., i am just zooming out but it is annoying and dunno why its gone so small ???
Sending you hugs hazel xxxx
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