My husband died on the 21st may 2024 he had a heart attack and died on our kitchen floor the paramedics managed to bring him back. My husband had copd so he was put into a induced coma for 3 weeks to help his lungs and his heart recover he did wake from the coma for short periods of time and i was relived he was going to make a full recovery but unfortunately that was very short lived i remember the docor sitting me in a room and telling me he was just to weak and telling me they were turning of his life support as i was in no fit state to make the decision and after 26 years of spending every day and every night together the dream was over i wish sometimes it was me instead of him he is the rock the people person whe one who was just amazing a people person i have my amazing 3 children and ive had to be strong and supportive for them but im lonley i go to work come home feels like ground hog day everyday if im not at work i sit at home i have no friends and no one to talk to as no one really understands i hide my grief vey well from my children there is no place to go and meet new friends or people in the same situation
Hello Charlie, I am sorry for your loss, I do understand as I lost my Darling wife of 52 years on 14th April 2024. She was so brave and wonderful, diagnosed with Parkinson’s in 1994, I cared for 20 odd years, I really miss her I will never stop loving her. I am lucky like you I have 2 supportive children. But the house is empty without her. I leave BBC radio 4 on in the kitchen all the time as it is mainly talking, it seems to help a bit. I do not have the distraction of work as I am retired. But our village has a bereavement cafe which meets once a month and other things going on. You have found a place where we all understand how you feel as we are all on the same hard journey. Come on here for a chat or a ramble like I am doing. I find that it helps.
Charlie 1012
My husband of 50 years died on
17 April 2025 who I nursed at home by myself from a very aggressive cancer after being diagnosed in November 2024.
I feel exactly the same as you.
The loneliness of waking up each day is almost unbearable.
I’m here if you want to chat to me.
Hi @Charlie1012 … I am so sorry that you have lost your husband, especially so unexpectedly. But is is good that you have come here. I lost my wife of 38 years suddenly at the end of January. This community will provide some help, openness, advice, suggestions, solace, and kindred spirit-ness, Please keep using it.
There is so much in your words that relates to how i have expressed myself, and I daresay others too. Like you, everyday feels like Day One … the worst Groundhog Day you could ever imagine. We have kids and grandkids suffering too (all living some distance away), but I cannot burden with my grief . Like you suggest, loosing someone you have lived with, day in, day out for decades is terrible, unnatural and so lonely and isolating. I take some comfort that the kid’s grief is not the same as mine. They have family with them all the time to share and talk with, as they should.
Please try not to ‘wish it was you’ … I suspect your husband would not have wanted that?
It is painful for you now, and the way out is slow, but you have to believe that you will feel better than this one day. That is incredibly difficult to believe I am sure (and I have to admit to still having one foot on that camp too), but people who have felt like we do now, have said and done it.
Take care and keep popping by and sharing absolutely anything you wish to.
Hello Charlie,
I am so sorry for your loss, there are so many of us on here that feel the same, we can understand your grief and loneliness, don’t hesitate to express your feelings to us.
Sending you love xx