Since 02/09/2019. I have looked for understanding of this grief and have course come to realise that no one can describe how it will effect me. I still keep looking for the answers.
Anyway , yesterday I found an analogy posted by Lauren Herschel and I hope it’s ok to pass it on.
So grief is like this. There’s a box with a ball in it. And a pain button. In the beginning the ball is huge. You can’t move the box without the ball hitting the pain button. It rattles around on its own in there and hits the pain button over and over. You can’t control it- it just keeps hurting. Sometimes it seems unrelenting. Over time the ball gets smaller. It hits the button less and less but when it does, it hurts just as much. It’s better because you can function day to day more easily, but the downside is the ball hits that button when you least expect it. For most people the ball never goes away. It might hit less and less and you have more time to recover between hits,unlike when the ball was giant.
I liked this analogy. Yesterday the ball was huge but today it’s a little smaller. X