5 months on since we lost our dad. Really struggling with lack of support from in-laws and that my 76 year old father in law is still well in himself despite drinking up to 10 cans of lager a day. I know he can’t help this affliction but I’m so angry it feels unfair he’s still healthy in himself and my dad has gone, he really looked after himself. How can I let this go?
Hi @Rodney25. Really sorry to see you still struggling after 5 months. For me, the only way forward is to simply accept its nobodies fault. It’s just the way it is.
Nelson Mandela gave a famous quote relevant to this, he said its like taking poison and expecting the other person to die.
I could suggest some therapy, particularly mindfulness, which I’m sure will help.
Thankyou, I’m on a waiting list for therapy but it’s up to a years wait. I’d talk to them if I thought they’d listen but it’s difficult. Especially when they visit and he drinks. We’ve begun to give him non alcoholic drinks in an attempt to help. It’s just unfair.