Why does grief make us angry? Why does grief make us angry at the ones left? Looking at pictures, reading posts, thinking about memories. Even some of the nice things like someone sending you a quote or memory , why does this make me so angry and furious. It unbearable.
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I know exactly what you are saying. My temper flares very very quickly. Sometime ago I got my partner to smash a load of plates, I wanted to hear the noise, it actually made me feel bit better for a few hours. I think it’s all part of this terrible grief journey. Have a look at this link, I found it interesting, although this is nothing to do with anger.
https://www.careforthefamily.org.uk/bereavement/the-parallel-tracks-of-grief/
Because you are suffering. Anger is just an emotion of grief. Most of us feel it during this horrible grief. Life feels unfair and we hate the way we’ve been left. Unfortunately, we just have to treasure what we have left (i.e. our own lives), but it doesn’t make it any easier. Ride with it and just make sure you stay strong and look after yourself and ‘be kind to yourself’ (if you can!). xxx
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Reading what you have put has been really helpful to me and something for me to reflect on and do. Thank you so much xx
You are more than welcome. Stay strong. xxx
I feel full of anger right now.It has come and highjacked me after 18months.
I don’t know who to be angry at, I suspect that I am just angry at the situation of being alone, and not really having many people who want to talk about uncomfortable feelings and emotions.So I tend to hide them, but they are coming up all the same and it’s also affecting my physical health which is making me feel vulnerable and out of control of even my own body
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I have days like it, I’ve always been a bit quick tempered but my temper is even quicker and to be honest at the moment it doesn’t bother me, sounds awful I know. I’ve never had much patience, even less at the moment. I can’t put up with niff naff trivia things either as it all seems so irrelevant in my life at the moment, I believe this is all part of the grieving process. I have changed so much since I have lost my son, in some of my ways not all for the best and I can recognise it but to be honest some people just don’t understand. I maintain that this site is my lifeline x
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I’m absolutely furious at the decline of the NHS, which saw my dad going to countless appointments over 3 years with someone who wasn’t even medically qualified, only to come away with no diagnosis and then die of a cardiac arrest due to a blocked artery, the symptoms of which were those he was presenting to the unqualified person.
Now, 7 months since he’s been gone, I’ve moved my mum to a different surgery, and they have ignored national guidelines and taken her off her calcium channel blockers and given her 2 months of dangerously high blood pressure. My mum hates hates hates clinical and medical interventions, and trying to get her to go to appointments takes a lot of energy, and how are we repaid?
I’m livid. Truly livid. Totally fed up.