So, it was my 44th wedding anniversary today. . Nearly. 4 after losing Steve. . I was doing really well, went to the gym , doing classes. Had coffee with a friend. I didn’t mention the’A’ word. All fine. Arrived home to find a parcel had been left with a Neighbour . Thought it may be plants I bounced next door. My neighbour said, “Is it your birthday?”. With that I finally crumbled. “No, it’s my wedding anniversary “. It was from one of my children.


Hello Montague,

I’m so sorry to hear about Steve. It sounds as though things are very tough at the moment and you are feeling so sad at this time.

I’m glad that you’ve been able to share how you are feeling here and I hope that you find the community a good source of support. Everyone here has experienced the loss of a loved one and will understand some of what you are going through.

We also offer further support which you might want to take a look at. Our Online Bereavement Support includes our free online bereavement counselling, our Grief Guide which has interactive tools to help you cope with grief, and Grief Coach, where you can receive personalised support via text.

Take care - keep reaching out,