Hello
I havent yet though about engaging with bereavement counselling though will be looking for this in the coming days
I’ve lost my brother this week. In the last four years i have lost my other brother and my mum - not covid related.
I just feel numb - i had a therapist who was helping me though the therapist also died
Im not asking for the violin to be gotten out and played, i just feel numb and i am now the last one left
ste3 - I am so sorry. So many deaths in your life in such a short period of time is too much to take. Of course you are numb. It surely is horrible to have lost your whole family. It is unimaginable to me and surely you are lost in a fog of painful grief.
I’ve been numb since my husband died. I don’t know when the numbness will lift or if this is the new normal. All I know is that I don’t care about much anymore. Nothing I do will bring my life back and everything seems meaningless.
Come tread water with us. It’s the best we can do.
Much love.
Hello @ste3. Really sorry to read your tale. You have reminded me of an idiom I always use to use at times of stress from several directions. “When you are up to your arse in alligators, its difficult to remember that you were trying to drain the swamp.”
Never give up, move forward, little steps to start with, but they will get bigger and bigger.
Therapy is a really good idea, I’ve recently turned to Mindfulness/meditation, and it’s helping a huge amount, when I can handle all the negative thoughts which bombard me from time to time. My new life is good again, just different, and with short spells of sadness (but no grief)
Never, ever, give up trying to get your life going again, do it for your brothers and Mum. Make them proud.
I’m contemplating learning the violin, but my neighbours aren’t too keen!!
Thank you tykey - apologies for the delay in responding