I’ve been reading all the posts and feel it could have been me that’s written them. My husband died 7 weeks ago. We’d been together for 55 years. I don’t know how I can go on without him, I honestly don’t. When people ask how I am, I tell them the truth and say I’m in bits. I can’t pretend. I just can’t believe he’s gone. I just want him back.
I haven’t posted before, so I hope I’ve done it right.
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Hello, I am so sorry for the loss of your husband.
I am laying here in bed, wondering the same thing, how do I go on without my Mark. How can I spend the rest of my life without him. I don’t know the answer.
It’s a hard journey we are on, and I really can’t offer any good advice, but there are many people on this site who will help you to get through each day…
You have done the right thing, we will all get through it together.
I really feel your pain, you are not alone, please feel free to let your feelings out.
I am also struggling tonight.
I send you my love and condolences xx
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You did it right. Well done for coming here. Sometimes there feels like nowhere else. I am sorry for your loss. Please take care.
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Jim, my husband Mark was born in Croydon , I noticed that you are from Croydon too.
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Hello Flints. Which part of Croydon was Mark born in? How long did he live here?
Hello Jim
He didn’t live there long, his family moved to Huntingdon when he was seven.
I recall him talking about Norbury, not sure if that’s right. We did go back to where he lived, to have a look, a few years ago, but I can’t remember the name. He went to Norbury Manor School, I believe.
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I spent a large proportion of my RAF life, working in RAF Brampton, just outside of Huntingdon.
My daughter got married (now divorced) in Hinchinbrooke House.
Small world
It is indeed a small world. My son’s first posting in the London Fire Brigade was to Norbury Fire Station!
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Yes, it is a small world! Mark went to Hinchingbrooke House school. He said it was a really good school.
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My son went there for a while as did my daughter. It was excellent.
Hinchingbrooke School was formerly Huntingdon Grammar School which was on the site of what is now Cromwell Museum in Huntingdon. Oliver Cromwell was a pupil. The current school is on a different site and was built in 1939, I believe
Mark was always relaying facts about Oliver Cromwell.
A lot of his relatives still live in the area, although we do not see any of them, his sister-in-law rings me for a chat often, she lost her husband, Marks brother, in the same tragic way as I did, totally unexpected he was just sixty.
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@12Mossgiel
I am so sorry for your loss. It’s absolutely devastating but you’ve come to the right place. Someone will always answer you so although it won’t make up for your loss we all understand what you are going through and will try n help.
So many different emotions going through your head as it’s so raw for you right now.
I lost my John 12 weeks ago today and I have made a pact with myself to not cry after 9am because I’ve been in bits like everyone else on here.
Be kind to yourself and do whatever you feel like doing, scream, shout, wail and cry but make sure you keep up your fluid intake. That’s so important.
Thinking of you…
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Mitzi1, it’s unbearable, isn’t it? I’ve been for a walk this morning. I go every morning with my son and their dog Really high winds here (I’m in Fife) and I thought about driving down to the beach and watching the waves come in. Ian and I both loved to walk on the beach in the wind. I can’t bear to do things that we did together, though. I can’t touch his clothes yet. I can’t touch his dressing gown. I can hardly see as I type this. Tears, just tears …
I have his ashes here in our garden,with a little rose bush above them. I speak to him all the time.
We loved each other so very much.
Sending warm thoughts to all of us here who are grieving. Xx
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@12Mossgiel
Yes at times it is unbearable.
I used to be able to look at Johns photos n sleep in his t shirt but I can’t now. I will be able to do so again in time but for some reason not now.
I think we’re trying to blot things out although we can’t but it must be our mind giving itself a rest from the torment n constant thoughts.
It’s certainly a nightmare but I also believe we will get through it, however hard it is and however we do it, we will succeed.
Now, I think that today but tomorrow I could be in absolute bits with no idea of how to move forward
Sending love n thoughts
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Do things in your own time. What works for someone may not work for you. As @Mitzi says, we will get through this.
BTW, I find myself talking to the pic of Jackie all the time. Just told her I have sorted the cards out and now cooking Cottage Pie with peas, broccoli & gravy. Ok, it’s one of those Charlie Bigham things, but she did like what I did, even though she was a great cook.
Right, in my head, she’s telling me to check the pie, so see you later