Without my son james. Its the 3rd xmas now im just so emotional . My son dies on my birthday in march 2022 aged 20 of a neurological condition then last nov i found my mum dead on the floor she died of a brain haemorrhage. Ive 2 older twin sons who have autism. Occassions are so painful
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Hi @Sarahi39,
I’m Kate, a part of the Sue Ryder Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about your son and your mum, and how difficult you find Christmas. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through, especially at this time of year.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you may wish to look at these Sue Ryder resources which might be helpful.
- Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
- Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
- Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
- Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Kate
Sue Ryder Online Community team
Hello Sarah
I lost my daughter in June of this year. Christmas has been very difficult and I have yet to learn how to manage these hardest days. This forum is very helpful as we are mostly all in the same horrible boat . My daughter had additional needs, what I have learnt is I needed her as much as she needed me. You mention your twin sons, I am special needs teacher and if they are of school age reach out to the school for help if you need it xxxx
Hi hollie i completely agree with you when you said you needed your daughter as much as she needed you. I felt the same with my son james that passed away. My twins are 31 and have high functioning autism they still live at home with me. And find it very difficult to deal with the fact there brothers not around anymore. Plus my mum passed away 14 months ago. Best wishes x
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Hi Sarah
It’s so difficult to explain to people isn’t it? I hope you get support for your son’s , I’m a special needs teacher and I know just how exhausting it can be, my Hol had additional needs too but so full of life and a wonderful friend to so many people , take care
Jacqui