Hi. I lost my dad over a year ago now and feel like I can’t move on with my grief. I feel as though people have forgotten my loss and that I should be OK. I know it’s been some time but feel so low on days. I have returned to work and try and live as I did before the best I can. I’m considering taking antidepressants to help but not sure if I’m doing the right thing. Take care all x
I am so sorry to hear that you lost your dad. There is no timeline for grief and it’s perfectly okay to be feeling this way after a year - after all, in the grand scheme of things, a year isn’t really that long.
There is another thread in this Community discussing anti-depressants, specifically Citalopram, and you may find it helpful to have a read of those posts. Many people have shared their personal experiences of anti-depressants, which may help you think a little bit more about them. You can find that thread here
Have you had a chat with your GP about how you’ve been feeling?
Take care of yourself,
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Hello Joey, I am so sorry that you are grieving over your dad. I found that when my dad died when I was 25 years of age, that was 50 years ago, the one person that got me through it was my beloved husband. We had only been married a few months and my dad had given me away, then a few weeks down the line he was rushed into hospital and misdiagnosed. They said he had the 'flu but he had a brain haemorrhage, it was all over in a few days.
My husband died 3.1/2 years ago after 47 years of marriage, and I never took anti-depressants. I found that talking and be supported by my family was the way for me to go. But after all this time I still cry for my husband, still grieve for him so I do not know whether or not I did the right thing by not seeing my GP as our family have now moved on with their lives, but I can’t as there is no future without my husband, I cannot talk to them about it as I still break down in tears so I don’t mention how much I still miss him.
Every day is a drag, I have no interest in anything because everything I do, I have to do on my own. My sister died 25 years ago and now I have no family of the past left to talk to.
I have found that by coming on this site and knowing there are a lot of people going through the very same thing as I am and it helps enormously.
Speak to your doctor and see what he has to say, he won’t hand out anti-depressants willy nilly, so be prepared to open up to him and see what he can suggest.
Please take care,
they say that talk therapy and exercise are more or as effective as pills, and no side effects. when I had talk therapy, I always felt much lighter on my feet after the session. it helped me a lot. just being out, volunteering, talking to anyone about anything helps a lot.