Hi I am 6 months after loosing my husband I am soo depressed getting worse not eating sleeping just crying I missed him soo much I am soo lonely . Has anyone given in to antidepressants I have lost a stone and only weigh 7st so don’t want to be a zombie is their a mild one and what do I ask doctor for will it help me I can’t go on like this
I reckon it’s only your GP can answer if you tell him your needs. There are several different types, very few might make you a zombie. I was taking many different ones, all SSRI’s. Some worked, some worked for a while, some didn’t work for long. Trust your GP, he is the only one who could advise you.
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Hi @Maxandlala2
So sorry for what you’re going through, it’s a very difficult time. Well done for reaching out, that’s the first step.
You have been through a lot of trauma and a huge adjustment, it’s going to take time. Antidepressants can help take the edge off, but I agree with your previous comment - talk to your GP, tell them how you’re feeling. One word of warning - you may feel worse before you feel better as your body gets used to the medication. I would also recommend bereavement counselling, you can ask your GP about this too, they may be able to get you a referral or just give you some info on who to contact.
But alongside these treatments you must start to prioritise looking after yourself - eating healthily, exercise, fresh air, socialising, hobbies. This will be hard, but start with small changes and gradually build up.
I hope this helps. Take care
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Everyone reacts differently to anti-depressants, so it’s hard to say for certain if it will help, but many feel they do. You don’t become a zombie, in my experience, but it does put a kind of damper on your feelings, which is the point. SSRIs is what they usually prescribe at first, as they generally have fewer side effects. Which kind of SSRI will be up to your GP and if you’re worried about taking them, be sure to ask your GP to start with a low dose. 
Hi @Maxandlala2
My 52 year old husband died in March. By end of April I’d started antidepressants. They don’t make you happy, they just stop the noise and ruminating in your head. You will still cry but the pain won’t be as sharp.
I hope you get the help you need.
Take care 
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