I’m happy I had that experience nearly to years ago… but nothing since… I want to believe but it’s difficult when no one else around you understands … I still am finding it unbelievable that I found him and to be honest feel guilty that although I’ve no come to terms that h gone - it’s the finding him that has fucked m up! 
Yes, my dog and I both heard my husband call his name. My dog was digging a hole, heard his name, perked up, looked at the balcony, then me, then tilted his head confused. We both heard it.
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That’s the hardest isn’t it when you tell people about your experiences and they make you feel like you’re going crazy, it certainly doesn’t help the doubt does it! I am having an hard time believing at the moment and keep wondering what the point in life is, if there’s nothing after! I’m holding onto the hope that there is and we will see our loved ones again! X
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@Jess1 i meditate daily and then talk to my parents - ive noticed recently i will get a sort of sensation of a chill/shivers but i had assumed its cos ive not got the heating on high and im sat on the floor! So youve got me wondering now! 
Is there any particular meditation technique you find particularly helpful? I also started going for reiki healing and ive found a few days after the healing, i have a big emotional outburst followed then by a much clearer dream about my Mum.
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The chills I feel from time to time don’t feel like the chills you get when you’re cold, in fact I find it hard to explain exactly! Actually do you ever get shivers when you listen to music that makes you feel good? Well it’s sort of like that but more intense!
I should meditate daily but I have a lot of stuff going on right now.
When I do meditate, I just let my thoughts go on because there is no point in trying to stop them, a lot of people seem to think they’re not doing it right if they’re thinking about things which isn’t true.
I’m supposed to be arranging some sort of healing myself because I’m really struggling at the moment!
Apparently reiki is supposed to help open the chakras so maybe that’s why you are able to connect more strongly!
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I feel my partner is around and I believe she has contacted me. I tried to put myself into a relaxed state and just let thoughts come to me as questions. The strange thing about this was that the answers seemed to come really quickly, and some before I had properly formed the questions.
I also have seen pictures in my head; a long time ago relating to a friend of ours who had died, but we didn’t know and, more recently one from my partner.
Some people would say such things are wishful thinking, imagination or even madness, but I don’t think all of it is. It’s a comforting feeling as well.
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Keep an open mind yea, I had things pop into my mind like memories and so quick. I done a few spirituality video conferencing via messenger. It’s does leave you thinking, if you want to pursue this further there will be spiritualist churches in your area.
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The love of my life died almost 2 years ago. I have had been on this mad roller coaster of grief we are all on - and every other sort of emotion since, but have definitely been so much better for the last 6 months, even with the occasional bad week. Last night I had the most vivid dream about him - he was so real and solid and I was able to hold him and tell him I loved him. I said ‘but you are dead’ and he said ‘I know, I’m just visiting’. I then asked him if there is a heaven, is it real (we were both atheists) and he said yes. And that has helped me more than you can imagine. I can still feel his arms around me. So, this morning, I’m a little tearful because I miss him so much, but comforted that he is ok and I know he will be there to meet me when it is my turn to go.
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That’s so good to hear @Dublingirl . You will feel comforted by his visit. I have had a few dreams similar to yours and have woken up feeling refreshed and loved. S always said that after death there is nothing, he laughed at me going to church. But I know he will be waiting for me, I have absolutely no doubt about it.
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@SadGirlfriend Those dreams are lovely aren’t they? I have had a couple and they mean so much. I also dreamed about my mother last week and she looked in her 30s. I dream about my Grandmother a lot. I don’t care if people think it is me making it all up or it is wishful thinking, I believe they are all there waiting for me and that’s what matters!
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My mum passed away nearly 2 weeks ago and I was on the phone to my dad the other morning I was telling him to worry about bills etc and in the background a voice said “nooo don’t get yourself worrying about all that” I was shocked and asked my dad if my brother was there to which he replied no he was on his own. We are certain it was my mum! It was so surreal. I can’t explain it. After talking to other family members about it they said it was something my mum would say.
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That’s a lovely dream and I am glad it gave you comfort. I, too, am an atheist, but certain things make me certain there is a life beyond this one and a good one. My partner particularly believed in “signs” that I used to gently tease her about. Now I see such things all the time. Some I can logically write off, but the majority seem to be of the " See, you silly man, she has survived!" kind
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I’ve not had another experience since that ‘night’ … but that just makes me believe it wasn’t a dream… cos I was wide awake! … still suffering… still can’t believe that it happened to me /feel sorry for myself… it engulfs you… ?
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Hi jewell_12,
I have just had a similar experience. I lost my wife six weeks ago and I wasn’t expecting a sign or anything. I’m not particularly religious nor do I believe one way or another in an afterlife.
Last night, I woke up to find I was being squeezed around my body and felt an arm and a hand around my waist. When I touched the hand I realised it was my wife. I was wide awake and looking around the room so I am as certain as I can be that I wasn’t dreaming.
I felt a pressure on my back as if I was being cuddled from behind. This lasted about a minute until the squeezing lessened and slipped away. The bed creaked slightly as this happened but I wasn’t moving.
Lillian always said if she died first she would come back to me. I have thought about this over and over and I believe that was her way of doing it. Until last night, I never thought it was possible.
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It was Lillian. Was the way you were touched the same as her touch? I bet it was.
I had a few experiences like that in the early weeks and they felt just the way S would put his arms round me or hold my hand. Even the way my shoulder would just fit right under his arm.