Yep! 8 months now. I get some relief from the fact that my wife was a very self reliant person. Although I handled the paperwork, she was always supportive and someone I could talk to about problems. It’s what I miss most and of course her love and support.
I think Monica raises an important point. Suffering is nasty. No one wants it and the only redeeming feature is that it can make us more empathetic, more caring about others. Especially those in this difficult position.
If we are not careful we can easily become introspective. We turn in on ourselves and can only see and feel pain. Relief is out there, but we have to make the effort to find it. So many give up on counselling after a couple of sessions where often many are needed.
8 months is not long in grief. But it so much depends on the individual and their attitude to it. I’m still very much in the dumps, but so many have been so kind and helpful, especially on this site. My faith in human nature has been restored. Well, that’s one good thing that has come out of it.
We will never forget, of course not. But yes, I do see chinks of light now and then. Is it her showing me it’s possible?
Take care all. Blessings.