It’s been around 7 weeks since my grandad died and last Friday was his funeral. It feels like it’s been years but at the same time it feels like it’s only been a few days since he died.
I find myself having thoughts of ‘I can’t wait to get home’ or ‘I can’t wait for the weekend’ very similar thoughts as to what I had before he passed. But I’m hit with the thought - I can’t wait for the weekend? But why?
There’s nothing to look forward to - the events that I used to look forward to are just bland. Nothing inspires me, and I feel no joy in seeing my friends or other members of my family. I know I’m quite early on in the journey of grief but I don’t think I’ll ever truly be happy or enjoy myself like I used to before he passed.
I just want my grandad back.
I’m just wondering if other people tackled this feeling of not really looking forward to anything? And if it changes?
Hi @Choccy , rest assured that your enthusiasm will come back to you. It’s a long journey, but with a positive attitude you will eventually see it improving, and you’ll start doing things again, often new things. It might be time to do those things you always wanted to do but never got around to.
I looked at it as a new chapter in my life and made it a lot different - and it’s good
Be patient, 7 weeks is a very short time in this situation. Hang in there!
You’ve been supporting me a lot on here! I keep thinking of all the stuff I want to do but when I’m hit with the pang of sadness I sort of lose motivation - I might start writing things down that I want to do in the future.
I’ll always miss him - forever and every single day. Hopefully I can miss him but remember him happily at the same time.
Hi again @Choccy . Im delighted I have been some help
I do realise how difficult it is to take that first step. Penny died on april 18th, and I decided to celebrate her life on this day to take a first step. This year I decided I’d always liked flute music, so I bought a flute and booked lessons. After only 6 months, I can now play a few songs to her.
Next april 18th Ive promised myself to film myself doing one, and putting it on youtube ,(and here,!!).
On other anniversaries, I booked abseiing, then potholing, and joined a 4 part harmony choir.
But never, ever, tell yourself “I cant do that”. Thats until you’ve tried and failed, of course!!. Then try summat else.
I wouldn’t even write down your ideas @Choccy , as soon as an idea hits my brain, I get on google and make it happen. He (or she) who hesitates is lost!
