Why do I just feel like going sleep is the best thing to do because then I don’t need to think of my dead husband no more I want to feel alive again I feel like a zombie walking I picked up his ashes today it been 3 weeks since he died I can’t believe his in a box now it’s hurting me so bad doctors have put my depression tablets higher but is that going to help I don’t think so my heart hurts so much I just want to give up but got 3 kids of mine not his a 7 year old a 10 year old and 13
I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread. I’m so sorry to hear about your husband. It’s normal to just want to sleep after a bereavement. It’s very raw for you right now, and I want you to know the community is here for you. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that might be helpful.
Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
You might also want to contact WAY (Widowed and Young) which has support for anyone under 50 who has lost a partner https://www.widowedandyoung.org.uk
They also run WAY Up for people 50+, http://www.way-up.co.uk/
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care, Rhi
I am so sorry to read of your loss and the hurt you’re suffering, like many others on this site, I do know exactly how you feel.
My wife of forty nine years died last year and like you, all I wanted to do was sleep. From the moment I got up in the morning I’d look forward to going back to bed.
My father died when I was 7, sixty five years ago, he left a big hole in our family. My mother didn’t seek to remarry and remained a widow until her death 43 years later.
Apart from my sympathy all I can do is wish you solace in your grief.
You will get through this, one day at a time.
I picked up his ashes today can’t believe all I got left of him is a box I know everyone says you need to be strong for you kids but I’m struggling I hate life without him he was my strength after I got divorced to the kids dad without him I’m lost
If you don’t mind me asking did it get easier with time i just hate life at the moment