At my lowest and this happens

Dear all,
At my lowest ebb I posted a message TWICE and each time the judgemental Sue Ryder thought police deleted it. So much for empathy and support. Not even an explanation as to why. How rude! So I’m out of here. What ever happens to me now rests partly on the head of the bloody jobs worth who was playing god. I wonder if this post will be deleted as well?
Love and Light
Geoff x

Hello Geoff,
I read your post before it was deleted
( I think it was the one you’re referring to) All I can say is from your post it was clear how low you are and how much you’re struggling since the loss of your much loved wife. I felt it was brave of you to post so openly and honestly.
If that’s how you feel I think you should be allowed to express it here and can’t understand why it was deleted.
I’ve been a member for a long time but hardly post now because I feel that unless you exude " positivity " you’ll be attacked.
I can only say that I believe there are others on this forum , myself included , who can’t see a future worth having following the deaths of their loved one.
I wish I could say more to help you. Wishing you well, Jx

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I read you’re post also. I can’t understand why it was removed.

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Hi Geoff,
I also read your post, and you should be able to say exactly what you are feeling, that’s what this forum is meant to be all about.
As Dalejackie says, there are so many of us on this forum who can’t see a future without the love of their lives, and that includes me too.
I understand how you feel, please stay with us , we’re all in this together and are feeling everything you say. Take care .

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Hello Geoff,
Jackie has said it in a nutshell, I totally concur with Jackie’s post. There are a couple of messiah’s, preacher’s, do gooder’s, nosy parkers, busy bodies sadly on this forum that hide behind SR’s skirt by hitting the flag button if someone dare post anything that doesn’t conform to THEIR way of thinking. Was that the case here? Some of us have the guts to stand up and be counted others are not worth the time of day.
I empathise with you as you know from previous communication, ATB. B.

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I read the post but did not quite know how to respond. The post was your feelings on your life and how you are dealing with the now and what may be for you.
I would like Sue Ryder moderators to explain on this post as to why they felt that the post should be removed.

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Yes I agree, there should of been an explanation, not remove it without one.

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For the benefit of SR and some others,
UTOPIA is just around the corner.

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THANK YOU EVERYONE for your loyal and understanding responses. My post was a cathartic release concerning my feelings at the time. If a person cant offload in print from time to time whats the point of this forum?
Love and Light
Geoff x

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Sadly Geoff this forum does not support complete FREE SPEECH, never has and never will.

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Be who you are and say what you feel…
Because those that matter…
Don’t mind…
And those that mind…
Don’t matter.

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Sometimes the lower we feel and are able to express it on here the more support we can get from others who have been in the same bad place. Having someone to lift us up when we are in the depths of despair can come just at the time when we are thinking that we can’t get any worse. Geoff999 please go on posting about your bad days and also about your better days. Yes - there will be some. We are all here for each other.

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@Geoff999 I hope you will continue and be allowed to continue to post exactly how you are feeling. We understand because at some time or the other we found ourselves in exactly the same place. It is so hard to find a way through this grief. Take care Geoff

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Please don’t eave Geoff especially so near Christmas.I never take offence at anyone’s post as everyone is so individual and we need the individuality to make us feel normal in our grief. How can anyone be positive in the early stages of grief? What have we got to look forward too? I was looking through a photo album today for the first time in 2 yrs and I found a photo of Ron in his favourite shirt which I have kept. I got the shirt out and I placed the photo in the pocket with a photo of the Island where we got engaged. Then I put the shirt and photo next to his ashes and I sat and sobbed my heart out. It made me realise that any new positivity has just been a facade.I can never be totally happy again.

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Dear Everyone
SR did message me later stating that any post that implies someone might take there own life is not allowed. Apparently because if anyone did go through with it this might have a negative impact on others on the site who might think they were partly responsible. My point is no one would ever know anyway. I’ll still continue to post my friends. But from now on I will always feel somewhat inhibited as to what I say which rather defeats the essence of a site like this.
Love and Light
Geoff x

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Geoff I hope you don’t mind me saying that I agree with Sue Ryder on their reason. I read your post and had no idea how to respond. Then I slightly panicked that you might do something and I wouldn’t have helped you in anyway. I hope you don’t mind me saying that. It’s just another point of view.

It’s so hard to know what to do in these circumstances and SR I guess have guidelines to follow. I do get that you need to get it off your chest but I guess they have a duty of care too

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Hi Angiejo 1 Just to let you know But you probably already know you can have your Ron’s shirts made in to lovely cushions. I have my Ron’s favourite shirts made in to cushions and I love cuddling them at night. Love and hugs to you. Xx. Carol xx

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Dear Jooles
I can see your point perfectly my friend. And I of course don’t mind. I was simply at a very low ebb on that occasion. As I mentioned in an earlier post it was a cathartic release. It was how I felt at the time, a kind of mind scenario acted out in print. I wouldn’t have the courage to take my own life in reality but of course nobody could possibly have known that. And I thank you for your kind concern.
Love and Light
Geoff x

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I’m glad you were not offended. I do get you need a release too. I hope you continue to get it all off your chest and know that someone is always listening.

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I didn’t read your post but the idea of dying has appealed to me many times as I suspect it has to others. By letting out your feelings in what should be a safe space it probably stopped you from doing anything. Sometimes I think
Grief is like a pressure cooker and we need to release the steam valve.

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