Baby lose

Losing a child
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I lost my 20 week pregnancy to my little boy ducky 3 months ago, he was diagnosed with Down syndrome a major heart defect and many other problems, doctors recommended termination as he wouldn’t have a life out of the hospital and he wouldn’t make it past the age of 1 at a push, ducky was conceived after 9 miscarriages, so it was devastating

I have always been raised with “ a suck it up and get on with it” style so I am struggling to process it, grieve and understand what happened.

And due to being so mentally exhausted and broken from it all I feel like I am snapping at my earth side children and I am struggling to be the positive mum they need which destroys me more

Lucky none of my friends and family have been through anything similar but it also leaves me with no one that understands

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Hello @Luna8,

I can see that you’re new to the community. I hope you find it to be a support to you, but I am so sorry for the loss of your little boy Ducky and your miscarriages that brings you here.

You say you are feeling mentally exhausted and struggling to process your grief. I wanted to share some sources of support that might help you right now.

Sue Ryder also has some resources which can help you cope with grief.

  • Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief

  • Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,

Alex