Baby Loss

Losing a child
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Two weeks ago, I went for a scan where they referred me for an emergency one.

They later told me I had no amniotic fluid, something that wasn’t picked up before. Within a week, I went from everything being fine to having to end the pregnancy, as the baby wouldn’t have made it to full term.

I’m struggling to deal with and come to terms with losing my baby. I had to be put to sleep for the procedure, and doing it alone, as my partner couldn’t be there, has been incredibly difficult. Mother’s Day has just passed, and I spent the whole night awake, quietly sitting with this low mood and constant state of grief.

My partner is trying to help, but when he tells me I need to move past and not affect our 2-year-old with my sad mood, it hurts. I’m not sad or tearful on purpose, just struggling to come to terms with this new “normal” — not being pregnant, not attending appointments, and having to tell people around me.

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Hello @Hayls852,

I can see that you’re new to the community. I hope you find it to be a support to you, but I am so sorry for the loss of your baby that brings you here.

You say you are feeling like you are struggling with low mood and the constant state of grief. I wanted to share some sources of support that might help you right now.

  • Child Bereavement UK support families with the loss of a child. They also support bereaved children. You can call their helpline on 0800 02 888 40.

  • The Compassionate Friends support families who have lost a child of any age. They have a grief companion scheme where you can get 1-1 support from another bereaved parent. You can call them on 0345 123 2304.

  • Sands - Stillbirth and Neonatal Death Society have lots of support on their website.

  • Tommy’s support anyone with the loss of a baby. They have a helpline on 0800 0147 800 or email midwife@tommys.org. They also have a baby loss support Facebook group.

Sue Ryder also has some resources which can help you cope with grief.

  • Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief

  • Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,

Alex

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I’m so sorry for your loss. Pkease accept my deepest sympathies. You’re not in a low mood, you’re grieving the loss of your child. You dont just simply move on and get past it, there is a life time of grieving to wade through.

Have you reached out to any organisations especially for baby loss? It may help to chat with others who have been through similar loss.
Sending you much love x