I lost my daughter on the 07/12/24 I really don’t know how to go on without her. She had an extremely rare heart condition. I feel I killed her and just want to be with her. How does anyone cope with loss?
Joshyliv. I feel your pain and absolute emptiness. I’m truly sorry for all that you are going through. I too lost a baby, born at 28 weeks, at the age of 1 day way back in 1979, and every year they play “when a child is born” on the radio. It breaks my heart and brings me to tears every time. I never forget her, but it does get easier, in my experience. Karen was born to my ex wife, and we were talking about it the other day. She was in floods of tears too, so I can see this from the view of a father and probably the mother too. My ex-wife blamed herself too - it was due to antibodies from the birth of our son in 1977. BUT you are NOT to blame, sometimes these conditions are passed between people and sometimes not. We wondered if there had been anything we should have done differently, but eventually realised that it was simply an act of nature. We then went on to have the most gorgeous son, thanks in part to the skills of the doctors. We probably wouldn’t have had him if Karen had lived. So although I, and probably my ex-wife, still mourn her loss regularly, we can be thankful for our second son. Be strong, mourn the loss (strangely that was on my eldest son’s birthday), never forget but look forward to the future. You can do this, although it doesn’t feel like it at the moment, does it?
Much love M
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Thank you those are very kind words. I’m sorry for your loss too.