I lost my husband of 50 years 3 months ago after just 6 weeks from cancer diagnosis. I cope by being out all the time, and I am lucky to have so many friends who give wonderful support. However when I am at home I am a complete mess. Now my son and his wife have said they are separating, and although I’ve told them I can’t cope with their problems while dealing with my own, I am being sucked in to their issues , and without my husband to talk to it’s just unbearable. I feel I am back to square one in my grief process. Just don’t know where to go from here
Let your son and his wife sort themselves out you have enough on your plate to be sorting out, refuse to be dragged into their problems and tell them how you feel.
I can’t imagine how you can be available to give advice to your family so soon after your bereavement please think of yourself and let them organise their own life. You need time to grieve, take care x
Today a lovely kind neighbour gave me a painting of my husband that he’d done from a photo after the funeral. Complete surprise and I was overwhelmed by his kindness. It will stand at the end of my hallway, so when I come home from anywhere he will be there to greet me.
What a wonderful neighbour, how thoughtful of him and I think i would have been overwhelmed by this gift, you are really lucky to have such a neighbour. Enjoy your painting x
So thoughful isnt it ? I wish somebody had fine that for me … xx