@Hazel.1966 so sorry you’re having a bad day. It just takes one trigger for the grief to spiral out of control again. Sometimes just chatting on here helps. Sending hugs.
@Jan17 thank you so much for your support…big hugs xx
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I have been very low for a few days Lower than the usual low.The lovely weather has made me worse .I lost my beloved husband 8 months ago and like everyone on this Forum I am struggling.
I went today to choose a plot at the crematorium I honestly couldn’t believe I was there it all seemed so frightening and final.I just somehow have to do these arrangements as I have no family,but my dear lifelong friend came with me and she was my rock.
I send lots of hugs to everyonexx
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I agree I try and sit in garden on days of work but can hear happy families , children playing etc , can’t handle it so just sit indoors crying !!! Keep going everyone xxx sounds really awful this because it means you’re suffering too but I’m glad others understand . Even where I work is a very lovely , happy environment I can’t meet for lunch with my colleagues at mo so sit in an office on my own xx
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Sorry to hear about your husband, although I wasn’t with my partner that long, I lost my partner in February, only after getting the awful news end of February, I am still struggling myself, it’s been hell, if you ever want to chat, I’ll listen and be a listening ear. Sending you a virtual 
Susie xx
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think its my turn for a bad day. found a pair of her socks and I just dissolved and now I’ve to go in and pay the funeral. I absolutely hate this. if it wasn’t for my dog there would be no point in continuing
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I lost my gorgeous wife sue on the 1st February this year due to pancreatic cancer. I feel so lost and alone even though my daughter and stepson dave plus family are really supportive but I miss saying to sue lets go out for a meal or go away for a couple of days x
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Me too! @Martyn2. Sending huga
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Hi Martin,i miss my darling too.Just spending time together was enough for me.Take care Derek.
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@UnityMan hi mate I live in Liverpool maybe we can meet for a drink we are both in the same place and I know you will understand how I feel anyway take care sorry for your loss Dave
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Oh I’m so sorry to hear this. I’m reading this this evening has really got a tear to me in fact I’m reading this in floods now, I know what you mean Liverpool is such a busy bouncy friendly place. I also used to live there many years ago and I don’t think I could go there just yet, the weather also it is the first chance of season since I have lost my son, I’m finding it so difficult weather change, I really don’t know if that sounds weird, but this is how I feel…
Hear if you want to talk…
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Had a rough day today. My sister in Leicester lost her husband recently and today she rounded on me .saying i hadn’t rung her every day like she did after sue passed away when in fact she only rung twice .i tried to ring her every day but her phone kept going to voicemail.she said mine was doing the same. But what really hurt was her saying at least you knew sue was going to die.that really upset me and has sent back into a dark place that i,m fighting my way out off
@Martyn2 I am sorry that you are having a bad day. Maybe your sister isn’t coping with losing her husband and might be taking out her anger out on you. As we all know grief can make our emotions heightened. Hopefully you both will sort it out and your sister will realise that she has upset you and will reach out to you. Big hugs xx
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Unfortunately wendy is very self centered.once she sets her mind to something then she is always right and the rest of the world is wrong even if there valid proof that she is wrong. I cant forgive her for saying at least you knew sue was going to die .that really hurts.dont think i can ever forgive her for that
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@Martyn2
Totally understand how you feel about people saying , well you knew she was going to die…
My husband was poorly for around 7 years, sometimes very very poorly to the extent doctors told me he might not make it…
A very close family member said the same to me comparing me to someone she read about!! (So didn’t even know the person !)
" Well at least you knew he would die, and when you think about it you were lucky (!!) t wasn’t sooner consider how ill he was"
(It was Mum by the way… And all though others haven’t said it as bluntly, they have said things about him being lucky to have survived previous health scares)
Love and hugs for another lonely day
Be strong, our darlings are with us, keeping us strong, guiding us and loving us 
I couldn’t respond…and probably best I didn’t
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Couldn’t respond to my mum…that part of the message should have been higher up …
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Sending you hugs .wendy is now fully blocked