Hi, I lost my daughter on my birthday at the end of July ,so very recent. I am finding the days getting worse not better. We have to wait for Toxicology and tissue samples and a possible inquest which all takes months and I can’t seem to get closure on any of this that’s gone on.
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I’m so sorry to hear about your daughter, @Lors50. You are not alone - many of our members have sadly experienced the death of their child and will understand some of what you’re going through. I’m just giving your thread a bump - I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support.
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Take care,
Seaneen
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Hi @Lors50 I am so sorry you have lost your daughter, it is a stressful and painful time especially when it is under the coroner, I lost my son a few days before Christmas 20 years ago and of course it came under the coroner, but being Christmas and New Year it dragged on and on, it is the most horrendous time, it feels as if nobody really cares and if it involves an inquest as it did with my son it just goes on, sadly until all of this is done you are unable to arrange the funeral and it is really only the funeral that does give you closure, all you can do is wait for the coroner, for me, no amount of 'phone calls, getting upset and shouting at them got me anywhere, it was as if they just really didn’t care I really hope that things have changed in twenty years.
I hope things are sorted soon and you can get some sort of closure, my heart goes out to you,
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Hi . I too have lost my precious daughter… 6 and a half weeks ago. We too are in waiting for toxicology - all more complicated as it happened when she was on holiday in France … French law is very different … they do not have to share any details with us if they do not wish too … still waiting on autopsy … only way I I get any if I is to engage a lawyer. Living a nightmare.
Sending love
Jo
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So sorry to hear this, it’s an absolute nightmare, something I am finding so hard to deal with .
Sending you all my love x
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I lost my son the end of March, and yes the toxicology and the coroners report and the evidence bundle and the inquest are all steps that have to be endured. Yet they dont bring closure, they are just one more thing that needs to be done on the way to what? I dont know, they dont make anything clearer, they dont explain anything, they just give more information to rake through late at night.
Sending you my love as a fellow sufferer, all that we can do is keep going, our children would want us to be happy and while that is a step too far, I try to keep going for his sake. x
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Hi @abl, I lost my son 20 years ago, coroner, toxicology, inquest the works and yes a report that you cannot fully understand without medical qualifications, I contacted our GP and asked if they would explain things which they did, one evening after the surgery had closed and all was quiet, it was a real help, I am not sure they would do that now as they seem hell bent on making life as difficult as possible for patients but might be worth a try.