Bad grief day

Coping with bereavement
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Having a bad grief day.

I lost a friend to depression 4.5 years ago and his birthday is coming up, he would have been 24 and I miss him so much I can’t stop crying

I also cut off my entire family last year for my mental health/due to being LGBTQ+ and it feels like I’m grieving that too. I was terrified to come out to them and be my true self and instead I stopped talking to them. There was a lot of drama as well which I was always in the middle of and that was too much to cope with

Unfortunately, had a miscarriage last year and also feeling sad over the loss of this baby. It wasn’t planned, it would have turned my life upside down but I didn’t really properly grieve this

Today is just a bad grief day. Also it’s freezing cold. I hate January

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Hi @morstuavitamea
It sounds like a very overwhelming time, sorry to hear your struggling so much with your grief.
The loss of a child is so heartbreaking, no parent should ever have to go through that, my heart goes out to you at this upsetting time, sending hugs of support. As for the crying, I have days like that to, as bad as it can feel, it’s good to let it out.
Well done for coming out, I have relatives who are LGBTQ+ I think it’s important for people to be comfortable & excepting of all aspects of who they are.
Feeling the need to cut off from family, I know the feeling well, something when family arguments get really bad, I feel I want to cry, thinking “why do they have to be so mean & truculent all the time, why can’t they just sit down & talk as adults!” Sadly, we can’t change other people’s behaviour, we just have to accept it & move on. If there’s something I’ve learned from loosing people I love, it’s that life is too short to stay angry, & too short to let others dictate my life & how I choose to live it, but also, if I have something I need to say, or a conversation I need to have, it’s better to have it, because one day, that person won’t be there, & regret is a terrible thing.

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I’m so sorry for your losses also I’m sending healing and hugs not easy losing someone we love :two_hearts: I lost my partner 6 months ago he was a cross dresser even though he wanted to transition but couldn’t cause of I’ll health etc people use to judge me all the time fell out with friends over him being the way he was but I loved him not matter what I admire you for posting this it takes a lot concentrate on getting your self better always here to chat if not having a bad day

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