Hi everyone, i have so much to say and could go on forever i lost my mum in November last year, the circumstances surrounding her death were awful, from them the moment i found her right through to the moment she passed awsy, i was her all the time, i have constant flash backs and dreams ,reliving the day, i cannot get over it ,
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Hi Butterfly22
I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’m so sorry to hear about your mum. I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing that you are struggling with difficult memories. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you may wish to look at these Sue Ryder resources which might be helpful.
- Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
- Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
- Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
- Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take good care, Rhi
I’m so sorry, this sounds awful. Can you talk it through with a counsellor? I have things from losing my mu that I can’t forget but they are getting easier. I am lucky that I have spoken to my husband about this loads of times which helps to understand and get it staright in my head. Even though some things were unacceptable that happened to her. Having someone to talk to is essential. X
Hi thankyou for replying, i think a lot of it is anger, i cant get padt it , im crying every time someone dies on a tv programme, i cant cope with sad news from friends and family, i feel i cant cope most days, im so drpressed
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Hi I’m sorry to hear how you are feeling, dealing with flashbacks. I too suffer with them when I found my son. However in time they will get less and less and you will also come to recognise your trigger points, day by day is a way of doing things instead of looking to far ahead, well that seems to work for me x
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I think it is all such a shock, I find it hard to feel what is real and what is not, but I look around and see other people have done this and I need to do it too. I think and hope that in time it will happen. xx
Thankyou. Youre being so lovely, i will try i have a lot of family issues on top of it , so some days, i feel like packing my bags and going away where they cant find me xx
I know, it’s made so much harder when you have other issues. I too have some worries around family and often it all feels too much to expect me to go around functioning normally. And yet theres not much choice. I do know what you mean though x