This is my first bank holiday since my husband died suddenly at end of December. I thought I was coping with my grief but over the weekend the pain has been unbearable and the tears never ending. I pretend I’m ok to everyone as I don’t want them to feel uncomfortable around me. I find excuses not to visit as I don’t want to spoil their days. If only I knew there will be an end to this pain, but I loved him so much, I can’t see a future ahead.
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Hi Lesley, I’m so sorry about your husband, I think bank holidays and weekends are the worst times, all you seem to see is families having a lovely time together
, it just makes the loneliness worse, I wish I could say things get better, I still feel it, my family lives quite along way away, so I don’t see them on a regular basis, it does get easier but I find I try and find lots to do, keeping busy helps me as does my dog, sending love Jude xx
Hi Lesley. I am so sorry for the loss of your Husband. My Husband passed away suddenly in October (its the second time that I have been widowed) I got through Christmas ok but this weekend has hit me like a ton of bricks. Despite having seen both my Daughters I feel so alone and have cried so much. The quietness in the house is deafening. People ask you how you are but if you were honest they would be horrified and wouldn’t know what to say so like you I say I am ok but have good and bad days. The pain will never go away but it will get easier as time goes on. Try and stay strong - other people including myself are feeling just like you x
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Thank you for kind words, I’m just finding it so hard to cope with the physical pain, also this weekend I can’t stop crying. We would normally be out and about in his classic car or our caravan and that’s never going to happen again, and the future looks so bleak. I know there are plenty of people in my position and I feel for you all.
Thank you for replying, I know I am not alone in this, but I can’t see a way forward, the pain seems unbearable. I still can’t believe he’s gone, such a special man.
I completely understand what you’re saying. My husband died in January and I’ve really struggled with this weekend. It just feels so lonely.
I also answer that I’m doing ok when I’m asked - who wants to hear the truth? That you’re not coping and you want to lock yourself away from the world. I’m trying to keep myself in contact with friends but I find it so hard when I see them all out having fun with their partners. I don’t begrudge them happiness - it just highlights that my happiness has ended.
We’ve got through this weekend now so I suppose that’s another milestone faced. Let’s hope it gets easier as time passes.
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Thanks for support, I suppose our lives will be milestones from now on. Like you I don’t begrudge people happiness together, but feel sad that it’s been taken away from me. Take care
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