Bed linen

Losing a partner
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This week I decided the bed linen needed replacing as it was getting a little faded,
I ordered a complete set which duly arrived.
This morning stripped the bedding and replaced it with the new.
Then it hit me my wife has never slept on or under this new linen or ever will.
I sat on the bed and cried buckets,I don’t know if I’ve done the right thing.

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Ron I am sure your wife would say you have done the right thing. I too am sleeping on/ under bedding my husband didn’t, I tell myself at least I am sleeping in our bed. Take care and be kind to yourself.

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Aww, Ron, it really is random things that floor us. I am sorry this one got you. We steel ourselves when special days are looming, but it’s the unexpected land mines that blow us to pieces.
I guess it will keep on happening, a new year that they never lived to see, a sofa they never sat on, or bed linen they never slept under.
The only alternative is to allow our homes to become shrines. My mother in law did that, it actually became more of a slum than a home. She had the money to replace things, but didn’t want to change anything. She died a lonely old lady living in a house that belonged in the sixties.
Just enjoy your posh new linen. Xx

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I have just ordered the first new clothes since Norman died 15 months ago. He used to love finding clothes for me and then asking if I liked them. I hate clothes shopping. In fact I hate shopping. I have some jumpers that are over 20 years old. The first thing I used to do when they arrived was put them on for him. These will be the first things he will never have seen me in.

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Thank you love.

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As usual Jane you have put things in perspective.
Thank youXx

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Willow Ray made me promise I wouldn’t turn the house into a shrine so I am doing the things we had planned around the house. I am not ready to do some of the things he wanted like get rid of his clothes etc but I will soon.

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I have got rid of a few things that were in inappropriate places in order to make life more accessible for me and my daughter’s needs.
Most of his clothes are still in the wardrobes. He was tall, I am not, so he repurposed them. The top rail was his, the lower one was mine. So, even when I get rid of his stuff the space it occupied is not much use to me. I don’t know which is worse, seeing his clothes every time I open the wardrobes, or seeing an empty space.

One thing I am going to sort out is the bloody heating. One cold night and I am going slightly insane. All electric house, storage radiators, glass panels in the bathrooms, infrared panel in my daughter’s room. All remotely controlled with apps.
As Ronnie said in an earlier post, what is wrong with knobs.?

I find that you always know where you are with a knob!
Xx

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Sorry ladies I am just as bad,everything is run through Alexa,heating,lighting,tv,security even the electric blanket.

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I have Alexa to control my lights and Tv, I managed to set this up myself and the heating is controlled via my phone or iPad. Ray left me to control the heating as I feel the cold more than he did.

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I control one light in the lounge and my heating via the app on my iPad. I can control the heating via a seaparate thermostat and the light via the switch.

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You are all making me weep with shame.
It sounds like more stuff to go wrong.
My husband always said that I must have magnetic fingers. The opposite of the Midas Touch. Anything electrical or technological just malfunctions when I approach it.
Xx

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Believe it or not as an IT person whenever I go near computers they tend to glitch. I also had the knack of immediately triggering the big in any program,

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Some of us blokes are geeky and love our gadgets,I know I am one.
I don’t like knobs I usually find them weak and ineffectual.

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Ron I don’t know if I took it the way you meant it but the comment about knobs made me laugh so thank you.
Jane

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Yes you took it right Jane,was trying to disguise it as much as possible.
I don’t want another telling off from admin.
Hugs Ron.

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After my dreadful day yesterday you have cheered me up this morning.
Hugs Jane

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Ron, i know exactly how you feel. Your wife, like mine would have loved to get new things, so you are carrying on her traditions.
Im sure she wouldn’t want you to live in an unchanging shrine.

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Ok, so we are doing knob jokes now?
A bloke goes into a bar, asks the barman if he can have a free pint if he shows him a teeny tiny man playing a piano…………

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Could that have something to do with a pianist?