Bedtime dread

Coping with bereavement
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You are so newly bereaved @Copenhagen1 so anything you can do is amazing. You can relearn to fill the car, work the oven etc.
Let yourself cry, it won’t bring him back but you can’t bottle it up. My face is sore & my eyes are black & puffy from spending the last 5 months crying.

I have found some great support on this website too. Really lovely people who understand the pain we are going through. Sometimes the smallest of kind words can power us through.

Sending love & support to you & @Vicky1974 , @MrsJ2011 , @Temporary & @Jane62 :people_hugging: (& all who need it)

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Thank you for your support.
I agree with what you’ve said.

Atm I’ve got company at night as my son daughter and also friends come over night. x

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Night time and mornings. Being alone when you wake up and having no one to chat to at night. It’s 6 weeks since my fiancé passed and I am still struggling with this. However, I have a journal in which I write to him every morning while having a coffee which I find comfort in. It’s worth a try.

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It talk to Paul when I’m driving and walking the dog
I always make his side of the bed as habit Thank you for your words x

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No problem. Here if you need to chat further x

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I can’t bear the nights, in the day I’m keeping busy, there are so many calls and emails to deal with. Then I sit outside, Tuscany is so beautiful and it’s not too cold. When I have to go in and there are pictures of Blaise everywhere and I can hear his poor mom crying in her room.

I just lie there in the bedroom he grew up in, surrounded by his things. I can’t cope anymore with it anymore, I just want to start drinking, but I know, once I start I won’t stop.

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Thank you so much

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Oh am so sorry. This must be heartbreaking :mending_heart:

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I’m so sorry for your pain. It must be so hard for his mum. No mum should lose her child. You are there with her so you are showing her how loved he was by helping support her. Believe me that is something.

Drinking won’t help @JonnyBadger, he’ll still be gone when you eventually sober up.
There’s no shortcut to bypass grief. We just have to live through it by taking 1 day at a time & hope time makes it easier to live with.

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I’m so sorry for your loss @Diane964.
Message on here & someone will answer. We are all living this nightmare :people_hugging:

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I have trouble sleeping. Most nights I’m still awake at 3 & 4.

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Bless you. We need to start a 3 o’clock club

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I’d join that!

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If we can’t sleep, we share I don’t even attempt bed til 2 am atm

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I fall asleep early but can’t stay asleep and wake up with cold sweats and in terror.

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That’s scary for you. The early hours are hard

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Oh my goodness YES. I lost my mum on 31.12.24 and the nights are the worst. I become anxious, feel frightened or dread, can’t get off to sleep so like many others scroll through my phone. I’m now listening to the grief programme on Headspace which is helping a little.
I felt alone until I read this.

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I’m so sorry to hear about your mom’s passing. It sure is awful!
I just found a podcast that is helping me, Anderson Cooper-All there is. He talks to people about their grief and I just listened ti one episode and it was so heart warming just to hear others experiencing the same thing.

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We are not alone. I joined the group 2 weeks ago and don’t feel that it’s only me with those feelings Fearing and dreading going to bed incase the anxiety takes hold.

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Its very hard for me to sleep too… im literally sleeping when im totally exhausted :weary: the laying in bed just thinking… i cant switch off at all

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