I don’t get to bed until 2.30 earliest. I wouldn’t sleep Your not alone with this sleep issues
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Realised I read through all this thread at 4am! Then read through other threads, for hours and ended up back here. Time to put the TV on and fall asleep with it on hopefully. Usually better at sleeping when I should be getting up.
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It’s like when the world is awake so it takes the pressure off you being able to sleep
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And so another night !
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So sorry, I didn’t see your message
I don’t even get into bed until 2 now
Do I need to choose photos for the funeral?
It’s a personal choice. Family could help choose
To look at during the wake or just talking about them. Do people do a projector running?
We had a slide show at my Brothers funeral during the time of reflection with some of his favourite music playing
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Thank you will start it tomorrow as funeral this Friday.
The funeral director may advise if they can offer it
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Hello Copenhagen, I totally understand how you feel at night time, it can be so long, I lost my only sibling who lived with me, I lost Frank Feb 14th 2023 to Cancer. Its nearly two years but I cannot still accept his death, the house is so quiet, I miss him so much. I am so sorry for your loss it is still so new. Reach out to this group, wonderful people here. Best wishes to you.
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Thank you for your post
I do , i understand how you feel, i turn everything off beca im tired then bang the flashbacks come, i just cant forget, dont think i ever will, over a year later, so my tv goes back on, very long and tiring nights, BUT ive found reading books helps , takes your mind away from everything for a while, so try it. We’re all here for you, hang in there, it will get better, i know it will xx̌x
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Thank you so much for your support x
Yes I do, it’s not that I can’t get to sleep (sometimes I have trouble), it’s that she’s not lying next to me, that I’m going to bed alone. It was often the case that I’d be alone in bed due to her being in hospital, but then there was always the hope that tomorrow she’d be home & back beside me. Now that hope is gone. It’s almost a year since I lost her, & it’s still a problem. It’s almost her 51st birthday & then 4 days later it’ll be the first anniversary. I’ve been at the hospital most of today, as the community nurse phoned just after 11am to say she’d just found my mum on the floor & had called an ambulance. She’s got a very black left eye & a cut in her eyebrow. A ct scan has shown the fall has also caused a bleed in her brain. Due to her age (she’ll be 88 on Monday), being frail and her general health being poor they decided against operating, as it would be more hazzardous than not. The doctor said things could go either way. So tonight is worse than ever, as I’m half listening for the phone to ring.
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I have been slowly decorating the house because it doesn’t feel like a home anymore. But my daughter’s blocked all access to her/our social media so i can’t even put up some new images. So as much as l am moving on the old pictures doesn’t help.
Hi i do hope you and your mum are ok, my heart is hurting for you, but you must stay strong, i find thinking of the positives does help, my grandkds certainly do, bless them, it is very hard, but i am so glad of this community , you know youre not alone. Youll be ok love, x
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Ive not been to bed since i lost my husband when i wasn’t working nights we went at the same time, i struggle from 4-15 when he would be home from work i just sit looking at his chair, its so hard for us all to come to terms with this
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