Can I ask if anyone is now scared to be single since losing our dear loved ones?
I’m so scared to be on my own again.
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I have never lived alone before and find it very scary. I miss my dear husband so much, we always shared everything and enjoyed eating, listening to music and watching tv, etc, together. We talked a lot and now I find myself talking to him and trying to imagine his answers, I know he would want me to live well the rest of my life but, for now at least, it’s just a miserable existence.
I know I am classed as single and that horrible word widow but, I still think as myself married and Mrs, I did not unmarry my husband nor him me. Love never dies.
It is a very painful existence and there’s no easy way.
Sending best wishes x
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Rosemary. Like you I have never lived alone. You have brilliantly expressed everything I feel. Xxx
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I’m so lonely without my boy
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I was married for nearly 35 years and lived together for a couple of years before that. Pretty much most of my adult life. I hate living alone and like everyone miss my husband so much 
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Oh yeh course we are ! But what can we do ? Just try and be around other people then we won’t be as alone but its tough i know ! Nobody wanted to be in this situation … i know i didnt , maybe one day things will get easier ? Not really got there yet but i hope it will do ? I feel really cross sometimes hes not here for me … i needed him … but god knows we just gotta have faith our lives will get better … 
xxx
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Same as me @Jan17 xxx tough isnt it … so many moments in the day i miss him my little granddaughter said to me today … its funny not having grandad here isnt it ? How i didnt burst into tears i dont know !!! Xx
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It is so hard when you’ve been part of a couple for a long time. I was with my Keef from when I was 21 until he left me in February when I was 65, so really all of my adult life. I seem to be finding it increasingly harder going out as I have now become so aware of how everyone else is in a couple. I know people mean well, well some of them do, but they really can’t comprehend what it’s like to be one minute part of a couple and then to be all alone. I’m finding it harder each day and can’t really contemplate the future. Maybe I’m just going through a very dark period and perhaps things will get better one day.
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Thank you guinea pig and pudding i am alone except for dog
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I know its awful isnt it ! My husband was such a laugh too … i loved his company and i loved his love …im sad today … so hard without him … even 7 months in … how do we go on ? I dunno ? Its a bloody fight every flipping day !! X
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I’m sorry for your loss my husband was the same he bounced around like Tigga and he was so funny it’s a big hole in my life
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Everyone loved my husband. He would do anything for anyone. Showed by 50 people being at his funeral. I miss him so much.
We miss them pudding they were our lives we will get on but it’s hard. Tell me a bit about him if you can. Mine was funny and bouncy like a teenager even though he was nearly 60
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He sounds wonderful. My man was so kind. He loved cars especially jaguars. He would have loved the fact that his hearse was a jag. He loved spending money but unfortunately would bulk buy. I am left with 10 tubes of garlic purée and 5 sprays for smelly shoes. I have about 2 years worth of shower gel. He was a very good short mat bowls player. We met at an interview for our very first jobs. We both worked in IT and for many years worked for the same company. He was pre sales and I was post. Some clients got very confused when they transferred from mr to mrs.
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My husband was the same ! Always tried to make a joke of everything and my love for him was so very deep and its not fair i dont have him here with me anymore ! I picked him for a reason: because he cared and he was such a laugh and that hole he has left in my life is too immense to fill … ! I just wish my life was over as well but i have to keep going for my puppy but its sodding hard !!! And i would love to not be here on this earth ! I wish i had gone with him … it would’ve been so much kinder … i dont understand why god leaves us all alone, without our husbands ? Theres just no point to it !!
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He sounds great my hubby loved his cars aswell he had a Ford escort 4x4 as a teenager but aspired to a jag. He helped people as an oxygen engineer. I was prison service through and through which is why I m a bit aggressive hopefully I won’t get thrown off SueRyder we met on dateline the equivalent to Internet. I was wearing high heels and he was in his car and he flashed me and i fell off the pavement
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Ps love curry’s garlic puree a bonus
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You would need to be aggressive and strong in the prison service. Working with paying clients I obviously had to be controlled however much I would have liked to tell them they were idiots sometimes. I had one complain about me once. I told them how to fix a problem that wouldn’t cost them anything and they complained to my manager!,!. I think my husband and yours would have liked each other. I did once hang up on a client that was swearing at me.
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Yes but not 10 tubes. I had 5 tubs of butter and I can’t eat butter. I have given away so much food that he ate and I didn’t. I am very well stocked with soup for winter. What am I going to do with 5 pots of cinnamon. 2.5 kgs of herbs. One of my neighbours said our utility area was like Tesco. I still don’t know exactly what is in there but there are boxes of gloves. He had skin sensitivity so wore gloves a lot. Boxes of masks.
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Thankyou for talking to me you are funny I think our husbands would’ve got on especially talking about cars. Believe me I’ve been called a few things working for Hmps and I’ve seen a few things working nights. Best wishes to you stay strong
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