I know that in the modern age, it’s common for people to believe that when we’re dead, we’re dead. I had almost decided on that too, but my husband’s death nearly two years ago was a game-changer. I’m sceptical, and I knew that I could easily be prone to wishful thinking, but I decided to undertake some research into an afterlife. I’m so glad I did, because, while I encountered a lot of nonsense, some of it was not so easy to dismiss, and I now feel reasonably assured that Ken’s soul survived physical death, and waits for me when I go. It hasn’t necessarily made missing him physically any less hellish, but it has certainly helped in other ways. I believe that Ken is with me in a very real sense, not just “in my heart”, as the sympathy cards say.
Of course I would never dream of saying to any bereaved person “You know he’s still with you,” without asking them first what their perspective is on such things, and seeing if they’re open to discussion.
For anybody who is interested in probing the question of an afterlife further, I urge you to Google the “Love Knows No Death” workbook, by Dr. Piero Calvi-Parisetti. It’s designed to help ground grieving people in some of the strong evidence that exists for an afterlife. $10 for the pdf.
Would love anybody’s thoughts. Can I just ask that people be gentle, and not call me an idiot regardless of their belief or lack thereof? This has helped me survive. xo