Bereavement Firsts

So today it’s been 5 weeks since Tony died and so far have had my first….
Person saying I will find somebody else (said after 3 weeks FFS!)
Person seeing me and putting their head down (actually two people have done this)

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WTF is wrong with people!? So insensitive and ignorant. Sorry about the swearing but it makes me so mad. My partners mum said to me 2 days after he died “you’re young enough to find someone else”. I’m 53….and NEVER intend to find or want someone else.

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Absolutely! I am 50 and my husband was 49.
The person who said it is the loveliest person - not a bad bone in her body and she was pulled up on it straight away by my son
We really don’t ‘do’ death ‘well’ as a society- now I can see that

@Shaz69 I know, it’s incredible how insensitive and dismissive people can be to us bereaved. They don’t, can’t get it.
The only thing us to try to ignore them - or if you can’t, as I said to the couple who were crapping all over me on the plane recently despite me saying I was recently bereaved so asked them to stop: “one day, when one of you dies and the other is left alone bereaved, remember me, and remember what total ****s you were to me today…”, with which I walked away and was seated up the front by a lovely stewardess.