Hi,
New to this and looking for some strength/guidance. Husband passed 5 months ago left with 2 young children. I think l’ve been on auto pilot since as kept us so busy and now feeling worse than ever. Anyone relate to this? Any advice?
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Hi,
Thanks for reaching out about how you are feeling.
I am sorry to hear that you lost your husband. I lost my sister 8 months ago to cancer. I know it’s not exactly the same, but I understand how by keeping busy you can manage the day to day, but personally I think it can delay emotions and feeling. I’ve just had some time off work and I’ve cried nearly every day. However, at work I seem to be able to get on with things, until the next wave of grief hits.
I think it might help you to schedule time to speak to someone about your loss and how you are feeling as this might help to release and express your feelings bit by bit. Do you have a friend, or would you be open to talking therapy? I recently read on this site about writing your thoughts in a journal.
Remember, you are not alone on this site.
I hope this helps, if only a little.
I lost my beloved husband to cancer, it will be 5 months on Wednesday.
Im not much for advice but here if you need to talk.
Sorry if l’ve replied in the wrong field still navigating around this site. Thank you so much for your reply l really appreciate it, amd l’m so sorry for your loss too.
Yes, l think you’re absolutely right it’s certainly delayed the grieving process as l seem more emotional these last few days and having flashbacks. Unfortunately, it was unexpected (cardiac). I’m very limited to childcare so it’s just me (both under 5). I’m into my 3rd counselling session but find all the theapist does is bring it all to the surface which makes it worse for me but l do have a befriender (from a support group) which is more relatable. I just can’t believe how much our world has been turned upside and how lonely l feel even with 2 children who are the only reason l keep going.
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Bbic I am so sorry for your loss and having 2 young ones to support through everything when you are coping with your own grief. It’s completely life changing isn’t it and having to find a way through is exhausting. Good for you sorting counselling and other support. I found counselling useful in the first few months after my husband passed away but after a while it felt repetitive and I didn’t feel like I was getting much from it. Work has helped to give me structure and a focus and I’m sure your children do that for you too. Make sure you give yourself time to grieve and recognise your own feelings, don’t be strong all the time. Take care x
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