I’m struggling to cope without my husband ..I lost him June last year. I no longer feel I can go on some days even though I have family support.
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Hi Snoopyshe, I sorry to hear you are in a bad place. My wife died on Christmas day and I’m finding it very hard to deal with. First the horrific pain which has given way to a loneliness that can’t be quench by any number of people. I have joined a bereavement group which helps, have you tried anything like that? Maybe a therapist.
Wishing you all the strength you need
Tom 
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Not tried anything other than self help books. I have a neighbour who is a widow and she has been a big help. Doctor offered me antidepressants..don’t want that. They have stopped prescribing sleeping pills so some nights I sleep spasmodically and others I cry most of the night. I can only hope that this will pass in time. Thanks for your support.
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I feel the same, I have no idea what I’m supposed to do, I’m not really sure what the point is, I’m getting help with the physical effects of my grief but honestly the emotional & mental side just seems to have no answer. I wish there was something someone could do to help but there is no one & nothing 
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It’s so cruel.. there’s no quick fix just got to work through it and hope it gets easier.. thanks for your comments.
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I lost my partner in September last year so I’m 7 months in just now. I feel I’m getting worse, crying every day, meltdowns have come back. I just can’t envisage how I’m going to cope without him. He was taken suddenly at age 66, he should have had a lot more time. Worked hard, kept himself healthy, went walking every day. Seriously, what’s the point?
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I’m so sorry. If it’s any comfort I cry every day too and wonder if I can carry on. I’m lucky I have a daughter close by but it will never replace my husband. This is a very cruel time of life. Take care of yourself. Xx
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Hi Norma
I’m just like you then, I’ve had a really rough weekend, spent most of it in bed, just couldn’t see the point in getting up. For what? He’s not here and he was my whole world.
I’ve counselling this afternoon and I’m hoping it will help, but I honestly can see what is going to help at this stage.
Just missing Ray so much, the physical pain is horrendous
Take care x
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I feel exactly the same. We were together 60 years. It’s awful watching someone you love intensely die..the memories are vivid. I haven’t accepted offer of counselling or antidepressants.. I just struggle on every day. My escapism is going out occasionally with a couple of friends. I find the end of the day is my melt down time. I hope counselling works for you.. please let me know how you get on. Xx