Hiya I lost my mum a couple of weeks ago it’s finally sinking in, my anxiety is so bad and I am struggling to sleep on a night any time would be grateful thanks


Thank you for reaching out, @AmyH1. I’m very sorry to hear about your mum.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you might want to read our tips to help you sleep.

Take good care,

Hi @AmyH1
I am so sorry for your loss.
My mum died 4 months ago, it sudden and unexpected and i also suffered with severe anxiety, i think it was such a huge shock that i couldnt process. The nights were also the worse. I think i dream about her a lot then wake up with a start realising she has gone which starts the anxiety. I am seeing a counsellor and he said for me the grief is coming out as anxiety. I just had to allow it, and not fight it. I would get up and have a cup of tea and try and relax for a bit and then go back to bed. The anxiety has since resolved, and then the grief hit. Its all stages and its very early days for you. Try and be gentle with yourself, dont fight the anxiety as it makes it worse, and chat on here and read other posts, i found it really helped to realise my experiences were quite “normal”.

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Hi Amy, ive also had issues with anxiety and depression since losing my mum 5 years ago and then my Dad 6 months ago. Ive had alot of talking therapy (counselling, CBT and hypnosis) to help me control my anxiety and im also on anti depressants for anxiety mainly but also depression. Having some talking therapy is one of the best things you can do to help with both sleep and anxiety. Also, you could try doing ‘worry time’ everyday. Schedule a time at least few hours before bed where you spend up to 30 mins writing down your worries in a book. Then close the book and do the same thing each day. If worries pop into your mind at other times of the day just jot them down in your phone or on a piece of paper.

“No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear” - C.S. Lewis (one of my favourite quotes).

Sending hugs.

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