I lost my wife 11 days ago to say i am strugling would be an understatement, we have been married for 28 years and known eachother for 30 years, i am glad that she is no longer in pain or fear which she had for the past 4 or 5 years but i wish she was still here, she was my best friend, i always thought she would outlive all of us but i am here on my own trying to deal with greif clearing all her craft bits ready for selling them at the car boot next year which i aint looking forward to as we always car booted together, i have to clear all her belongings as the landlord wants to sell the property and a lot of memories are in this house, her cremation is on thursday i have been sat with her everyday last time today as they are closed tomorrow so now i cant even sit with her all her crafting and diy are going to be memories in my head only, it is my birthday today, i have christmas, new year and her birthday coming up all coming up in the next 7 weeks all on top of one another just feeling overwelmed
I am so sorry, i am pretty much at the same place as you, i lost my incredible husband, love of my life and soul mate 13 days ago, his cremation is also thurs. His birthday was 5 days after he passed, Our wedding anniversary is 4th dec. The pain and grief is unbearable, i dont even know how im getting through each day.
Im so sorry to hear you are having to leave your shared home and having to sort your wifes crafts, that must be incredibly hard.
Im sorry i dont have much to offer, other than i completely understand how your feeling, and i hope that you find comfort from using this forum and know you are not alone. Everyone on here is so lovely.
Sending hugs x
Im with you both. My Steves funeral was last week so emotional but now I feel lost. Its the worst pain ive ever felt. I used to love Christmas but now im dreading it. I cannot stop crying…I love him so much. Thank God for this forum xxx
I am so sorry @Mark_73 , My wife passed 8 wees ago, I don’t have the pressure of clearing a house, but I do have my wife’s craft bits to clear. Its a rubbish time of year, all the happiness being shown on TV, when all you are feeling is sorrow. Things do improve a little with time. Please give yourself some time. Best wishes to you.
My heart goes out to all of you as your loved ones passed so recently. My beloved husband died 20 weeks ago and in the beginning I never thought this waking nightmare would ever end. In the early weeks my main aim was to get through each day and trying to eat when I could. I’m 73 so work isn’t an added problem but I’m disabled with MS and my husband was my carer. I have found that it’s best to take baby steps and not try to stop the enormity of the grief as it comes in huge waves. As time has passed the pain has become bearable and happiness has entered my life again. I can concentrate on things again which was impossible in the early weeks as my husband seemed to occupy my every waking thoughts and his death was on a constant loop in my mind. Fortunately this has been replaced with happy memories. I hope you can all find some peace and I’m sending you hugs.X
I lost my husband 8wks ago. So i feel your pain. I had to clear out his hobby room and that broke my heart. Like you i have Christmas, then his birthday on the 29th dec, then new year to go though im not looking forward to that at all. I just want to close my eyes go to sleep and never wake up again.