Any advice on dealing with continued pressure by 3 retired and comfortably off stepchildren to myself and solicitor as to how long they will have to wait for their inheritance. I am heartbroken and exhausted by their attitude. People say stand up for yourself but to see their kind and loving Father reduced to money is so hard. Any advise would be appreciated .
Thank you
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Hello @Beryl1B,
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support/share their thoughts, but I just wanted to say thank you sharing this with us. Keep reaching out,
Naoise
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Hi @Beryl1B.
The problem is that you don’t know, and it’s something you can’t affect. It’s an unanswerable question. Legal process takes its own time, not theirs.
Tell them that, and ask them to stop asking because it’s upsetting you.
Sometimes honesty is the only option.
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Thank you for taking the time to respond.
I have told them many times that it’s a legal process and takes time, as has my Solicitor. My husband and I made mirror Wills and all each other’s investments were left to the children to avoid any problems arising. However, my Stepson is not prepared to wait.
Their Father was a very kind man and hadn’t seen his Son for 12 years until he was told that his Father was dying .
I am fortunate to have three very different Sons.
Thank you again for your response.
In that case, I’d just smile (or sneer) and totally ignore the question when it’s asked.
@Beryl1B
Surely these stepchildren have to wait until you either decide to sell or go to meet your beloved hubby. I’d have thought you entitled to stay in your home…
It never ceases to amaze me how people step out of the shadows on someone’s bereavement.
I wasn’t married to John so it’s not the same as you as we both had our own houses but when he passed just six weeks ago his only child, now a man who has obviously been cosseted all his bloody life and in 20 years visited his dads house just 7 times has now taken over the business of sorting everything.
John unfortunately and unbelievably hadn’t done a legal will but had outlined his last wishes and his beloved niece is mentioned as receiving a third of his estate. Will that happen I wonder because he hasn’t been in touch with his cousin since the funeral regarding anything.
He hasn’t even asked where his dad’s ashes are, I have them, and will see how long before he asks.
John would’ve said it’s because he’s ‘different’. I used to say to him that he was correct because he’s never had to hold a job down n his mum bought him a half million pound flat with no rent to pay and John himself enabling him to just do whatever n go to the gym…it absolutely annoyed me then and bloody irritates me massively now cause I can see Johns last wishes not being carried out because his son won’t have to work then at all. Just do his ‘design’ bits n pieces.
Sorry to rant but it’s not all in one house is it.?
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Many thanks for your response . It really helps to know that others understand your pain and shock at how mercenary and bullying some people can be.
I just don’t understand why money is more important to them than the loss of their Father. It is not as though they won’t receive the money once all the legal business has been sorted or that they appear to need it urgently, but they want it now. Like a spoilt child demanding sweets !
Take care and many thanks for your help.
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