Hello,
I’ll keep this brief as I find myself going over it so much in my head. My best friend has been told she has incurable cancer at 30, it’s been an awful time this last year and her cancer slightly persisted through initial treatment and is now thought to be resistant. She’s now being given aggressive palliative chemo to extend her life, I still have some hope she might pull through and am in denial a bit about what this means. She’s been given 6-12 months.
I really can’t bear the thought of losing my best friend this young and I’m thinking about her all the time. She still seems so well physically.
I’m also struggling to find any support for friends of people who are dying and think I would like to speak to someone. Does anyone know of any resources I could reach out to?
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Hello @Jfj,
I’m so sorry to hear about your friend.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few resources which might be helpful right now.
- Our Supporting someone at the end-of-life pages contain practical advice for those helping someone close to death and information about what you can expect when death is near.
- Our Anticipatory grief page talks about the feelings associated with grief in the days, months or years before someone dies. This is known as anticipatory grief, as you are grieving for someone who is still alive.
You’ve asked where to find support as a friend. Macmillan offers support to the families, and friends, of people living with cancer. They have an online chat which is open until 8pm every day. They also have a free support line which you can call on 0808 808 00 00.
Take good care and keep reaching out,
Seaneen