I have recently lost my best friend to a terminal illness and I am finding it hard.
I’m sorry to hear about the death of your close friend, it’s really hard at the best of times but made much worse because of COVID, I hope you were able to see them before they died, even though you knew the outcome of the terminal illness, you think you are prepared but the reality is that you aren’t , it’s so hard, I hope you have support from your family and friends, take a day at a time, things will get easier eventually, you’ll never forget your friend but hopefully you will be able to remember the happy times you had together, Jude xx
Thanks for your message. I had know Martin since I was 17 (I’m 51 now) and we first became a couple which lasted 9 years then the last 25 odd years were as best mates. He has a wife and 16 year old daughter which I’m very close too as well. I also live with his mum, so they are all my family as I don’t talk to my blood family. X
Losing someone to a terminal illness is poxy. We start to grieve the moment the words are spoken. We are at a loss because there is not a thing can be done to save them .its not from want of trying either. Watching them waste away befor your eyes just adds to the sadness and mad emotions. But somehow we get through this. Then they pass and as much as we think we are prepared we arent. Then the finality of it all hits you like a brick wall. It certainly is a mind screw. It is not easily overcome but it does get somewhat more bearable. But it is as it is and nowt can be done about it. Take it easy on yourself
My previous message was for lozmerelda sorry I put Jude at top
That’s fine I did realise that