I have heard many times after losing your partner “make your best life”what does that even mean? go on holidays,days out,make new friends,take up new hobbies,none of it alters the fact I still have to return home to an empty house,or hotel room,cabin etc with no-one to discuss the day with,and still climb into an empty bed feeling lonely,sad and bereft,I applaud those that can push through,me personally will just plod on.
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Ron, I have had this said to me plus have I adjusted to my new life yet, I am only 7 weeks into this awful journey after 52 years of very happy marriage. Because Ray was in the Army for 23years and then worked on oil rigs the usual thing I get told is that I should be used to being on my own 
like you I am plodding along. Jane
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Hi Jane.
I too am ex military and spent periods away from home,but always had phone calls and the knowledge she would be there when I returned,this nightmare is nothing like that.
Warmest wishes Ron.
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People just don’t understand that this is nowhere near being the same. It is nice to talk to someone who understands.
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It is,anytime Jane.
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Hi , i had my best life , my happy life with my husband . Im almost three years without him , yes i have accepted this is my life now , but i dont like it one bit .
I have had to adapt to life with out him . And again i dont like it .
I do go to work and i can have a laugh . But there is always a black cloud above my head . After three years i dont think it will improve , my husband was my life . Simple as . No amount of people telling me i need to move forward or move on helps me at all .
I have some really bad days , when i feel like i cant go on , but i know i just have to . I often say im on the treadmill of life . But keep falling off it .so need to put it on the lowest setting .
Yes just keep plodding on thats all we can do .
xtake carex
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Yes, we had our best life with them, didn’t we? Now it’s just a case of muddling on.
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Yes, you are so right. I keep busy, go out, meet friends etc. but at the end of the day I come home to an empty house and no one is there to talk to about the day as my husband passed away three months ago. No one can give you that back, so just keep plodding on.
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