So sad today it is my darling David’s Birthday, heart breaking that he is not here, me and my grandson have baked a cake as we always did, this one is a memory cake not a birthday cake but it is still honouring David .
I have to got to work now too…could do without it today !!!. X
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Hi @penny6,
Thank you so much for sharing this with the community 
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I just wanted to let you know that you have been heard and you are not alone.
Take good care,
Alex
Hello, my late Husband’s name was David as well.
On his birthday I struggle and the first year we had a takeaway with my two sons and grandsons
We went to a lot of trouble to visit his grave and put messages and plant it up.
However I feel that it is tricky in a way they moving on.
I went to the Xmas party on my own that we used to go to together.
My son took me and dropped me off. But it isn’t as good as when I was with my husband.
It is better than not going but it is struggle.
Sat with other widows.
I agree Enorac, nothing is the same, everything has lost that spark, it’s been 6 months for me and I thought I was getting better but lately I feel worse than ever. My life is dull even though I have lots to do and a nice family and I have made friends with some other widows.
No one can take the place of our darling loved ones, no matter how nice, how kind, it is not the same and never will be…it just can’t.
Sometimes I think like you, is the pain of doing the things we used to worth it when we don’t really enjoy it anyway because they are not there with us…it’s kind of like rubbing salt in the wound. Do we have to honour them in that way. I am trying to do new things instead it might help me move along this treacherous road of grief. Whatever I do i will always have my love with me in my heart.