My husband died 2 months ago. I have been navigating this awfulness as best I can; getting a bit fed up of everyone telling me how well I am doing. I met my husband 9 years ago, in a relationship for 7, married for 3. We had our whole lives in front of us; I couldn’t wait to grow old with him; I’m a bit old for babies, but I had hopes we might have had a ‘happy accident’. I’m so angry, sad, lonely.
Im really worried about going back to work; not the work, I can’t wait to get stuck back in and do positive things, more my tendency to overshare at the best of times! I am young for this; none of my numerous colleagues have gone through this and I don’t want them to think I’m a pest or a burden. Any advice?
@Scirocco I am sorry to hear about your loss and what you are going through. I feel the same way. Im so sad and lonely too. I feel like there’s nothing to keep going for.
I am in my 40s and my ex partner passed away unexpectedly. We had some hope of reconciliation and I also was even hoping for a happy accident. Seems there’s zero chance now. It’s so difficult, having someone you love and your current and future spouse gone.
You can share on here as much as you want to and maybe bereavement counselling? Sounds like people around you don’t know how you’re really doing, are there a couple of folk you can open up to a bit more? I don’t think you’ll be a burden xx
@Scirocco so sorry for your loss. The grief process can be so overwhelming at times, especially, like you said, you can feel like you’re oversharing. I like to think of it as not oversharing, more unburdening your thoughts and feelings. Some people are happy to receive, others might back away. I guess it’s knowing which is which. This site is great for sharing and chatting, it’s a blessing that so many people know what you’re going through and understand. I’m sure we’d all rather not be here, but we are and sometimes the collective hug is better than a singluar one x
You shouldn’t worry about ‘burdening’ them, you need to be able to talk freely and with passion! They should be the ones to support you. It’s their problem if they feel uncomfortable but maybe it will open up many conversations around the reality we all find ourselves in! Good luck. I think you’re very brave going back to work, it’s something I can’t do xx