Anyone just so bored of life and the same stuff everyday. I lost my dad unexpectedly and ever since nothing Is enjoyable and sometimes I feel like I enjoy crying over him because what else can I do? It’s not good for my mental health. I don’t want to leave my flat or see anyone I want to just cry and cry some more
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Hey @Cxoxo
It is so hard when we lose someone you love. The grief can be overwhelming and the sadness all consuming.
But we don’t want to get stuck there so we all need to try climb out of the “pit of gloom” and try everyday to do something that is positive - even if it is just getting out of bed.
I hope you rest well tonight xx
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Hi @Rosiejack
It’s such early days for you. You will likely still be in shock and wondering how did you get to here ? - I find that still, and I’m almost 6 months in, but it was a turnaround of 4 months from diagnosis to death for my husband and When we were given the terminal diagnosis it was weeks - how anyone is meant to process that is unbelievable.
Im not much help as I really don’t know how we are supposed to go on. There are many, many days I don’t want this life I have now and feel like giving up.
I/we were very happy and if it did all end tomorrow I would have no regrets - except that I would like to see my children grow up and be stable and happy.
I get up every morning to see my daughter off to school and I go out as I need to walk the dog. There is little joy, no meaning or purpose and often only sadness, longing and anger. My anger is usually focussed on family, who have been really unsupportive and who appear to just want to delete my husbands memory from existence.
I’ve also had to learn to do all sorts of things that he did - from using the lawnmower to organising the house insurance and (still ) sorting the Sadmin and dealing with his estate.
I struggle to focus for long so do things in small bursts when I can. I try to be kind to myself but I really probably function only at a quarter of how I used to.
Please just focus on the here and now. Do what needs done and the rest can and will be done when you are more able.
Take offers of help or ask others if you have people around.
Just getting up and getting through the day is all you need to focus on just now.
Try to look after yourself with sleep, rest and eating.
Things do get easier - or so I am told. Lots of ups and downs and you just got to cling on just now as I’m sure your partner would want you to keep going.
Not that that makes it any easier.
Keep posting in here - I find it helps to get things out and there is always lots of support and kindness on offer from people who do truly understand.
Sending some strength and hugs. Xx
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