I lost my dad in april of this year , he was ill and we new from may 2023 that he was terminal and now i have just lost my absolute rock my mum 3 days ago , to lose both of them in the space of 7 months is just so cruel , im struggling to cope now mums no longer here especially at thos time of year which was mums favourite time we did everything together, im scared to carry on life without her guidance and advice i really dont want to do christmas but feel i have to for my kids . Im lost and dont know what to do without mum and dad , life feels so very cruel right now
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Hello @Claire202715 ,
I’m so very sorry to read that you have lost both your mum and dad in the space of 7 months. That is extremely difficult and the way you are feeling is completely understandable, particularly given how close you were to your mum.
Thank you for sharing this with us. I’m just giving your thread a gentle, “bump” for you - hopefully someone will have some thoughts to share 
Take good care,
Megan
Hi there sorry that you have lost both your parents in such a short space of time. I lost my mother many years ago i was 13 and she was only 43. I built such a strong relationship with my Dad and he passed 8 weeks ago very quick diagnosed with cancer in August and passed in September. Having no parents feels so lonley. They are the ones who provided unconditional love and to have that gone is so painful. Hope the commuinty on here can offer some support. I joined in hope that i can relate to others who feel the same so i dont feel so lonley.
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Oh Claire, I really feel for you. I can’t imagine the pain & shock of losing your parents so close together. My heart goes out to you.
I lost my dad 14 years ago (yesterday was his anniversary) & mum’s 5 month anniversary will be on Christmas Eve. It’s so painful to have no living parent & my mum meant the world to me. She was my rock, my anchor & my reason for being. I’m broken from this but all I can offer is that you take a day at a time. Your kids will help you cope. My 8 year old nephew has been keeping me going.
Hi Claire, I am so so sorry you are going through this. My heart goes out to you. I too lost both my dear parents in 2022 only nine weeks apart. They were my absolute world along with my kids. I’ll be honest when I say some days I don’t know how I manage to get up and carry on, but I somehow do. It is still very much good days and bad days and waves of grief coming and going. I find this time of the year so hard since losing my mum and dad. I think the best advice I can give you is to go easy on yourself and if you feel rubbish and want a cry do it. Get outdoors go a walk I think always helps. Meet a friend for a coffee. Just do anything you can that will help. It’s all about survival over Christmas and self care xx