I’ve posted on here before but my mum passed away in January after getting pneumonia which led to several other issues. The hospital are conducting a review on the care she received, so that’s hanging over me at the moment, I don’t know what I’ll do if they say that she would still be here if they done something different.
I’m on sertaline and on a waiting list for a mental health assessment, but any advice?
I went back into work after 6 weeks, but I’m struggling to concentrate on anything and have major brain fog, flashbacks, struggle to get out of bed and realistic dreams that she’s still here. I’m tempted to take more time off work but scared that I might lose my job if I do.
What an awful position to be in masonjay1 - i am so sorry for you loss & predicament - I too am on Sertaline but the take a little time to work, my Lee passed 8 weeks ago & i spend my days sleeping & evening crying - no showering - washing - cleaning - life seems pointless at the moment so going back to work would be impossible for me… Sadly employers can be rubbish at supporting staff - i guess long term sickness maybe an option (GP can help with that) but only you can decide as you know your employer. I am sending you love & hugs & good wishes & a virtual kiss from your mum x
I immediately signed up for a counselor after my mother died. I took care of my mental needs. I went to grief groups and counseling because, an people miss this point, these people are TRAINED to help the newly bereaved.
we are a very special category. when you are grieving you are on an island and require a certain understanding. it is like having the worst mental problem. and of course it comes with physical manifestations, this most terrible chapter in our lives. how could it not?
I would unload on a counselor and try to use your job as a distraction.
I did not talk at work for a long time and people left me alone to do my job.