What is it with this mental confusion. I am forgetting things I have known how to do for years. Today I couldn’t remember how to open the car boot. I was almost in tears at my ineptitude. I forgot my email address whilst I was speaking to the bank. I gave someone else the wrong phone number.
I am starting to wonder if there is something seriously wrong with me. It is just over six weeks since my husband died. I have lists all over the place to remind me to cancel stuff, and if I don’t action things as soon as they arrive, I forget to do it. I forget arrangements I have made as well.
Is this just me? Is it normal to be this forgetful?
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Oh @Willow112
This is perfectly normal.
Brain fog, I was told yesterday can last for years.
So buckle up, we’ve got a long ride.
I very often forget what I’m talking about mid sentence, and have to ask what I was talking about.
I constantly forget where I put things and what I was going to do.
Everything you say is like me,
so stop worrying. It’s normal
Something else we have to get used to I’m afraid.
Love and hugs x x
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Oh Yes, sounds pretty normal to me. My brain was full of thousands of thoughts, and combined with the effects of the lack of sleep, I didnt know if I was coming or going. But I would have a word with the GP, who will treat it as anxiety and help you to handle it. The fog gradually clears eventually, but it only took 2 or 3 months for me. We are all different.
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Definitely normal @Willow112
7 months on I have lists of lists, a diary and a calendar, and several alarms so I dont forget whatever the hell I’m supposed to do …
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Yeah, @S_Diva sound just like me.
Then I forget where I put the lists.
Or what the alarm is for 
@tykey you’re doing really well, only 2 or 3 months
Big hugs x
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Thanks for the reassurance. This site and all you new cyber-friends are a real comfort and life-line. Now I know that I am not alone in this I feel less concerned. Hopefully we will all regain our mental agility eventually. Not that I was ever very intellectual, but I could get by. Now I feel like a jelly baby.
Xx
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Exactly that!
Every day 
I’ve even had to message all my friends to find out why I’d blocked out last weekend in the calendar… took ages for someone to come up with the right answer…
Funny now but frustrating at the time
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Oh @Willow112
Jelly baby sums it up perfectly
Yes @S_Diva
It can be quite amusing sometimes, but very frustrating others.
Especially when it’s the name of a friend I’ve known for years 
Love and hugs x
Somebody turned up with flowers yesterday. At first I thought it was a delivery person, until she cuddled me. She is actually a distant relative, married to another distant relative. I had met her once or twice before. Luckily, I read the card and it clicked in time for me to introduce her by name to a friend that was visiting. It was a close thing though, and could have been very embarrassing.
xx
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17 months in the fog has lifted. I think it’s a cushioning until you can cope better. I cry more a year on than initially where I just kept busy. Work admin decorating to stop me thinking and to be honest last year was a blur although family and friends say I coped well. On the outside maybe.
Keep positive and use us as a sounding board. I joined site after a year no idea why then and it’s nice to have people who totally understand to say things out loud that you don’t want to say to family and friends incase they think you are crazy. People here reassure you it’s all part of intense grief. Take care x
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