broken ties

This is not a big issue but I lost a good friend this summer.
I had a sense that my friendship with her brother, long-standing, would subsequently end.
Nonetheless, I wrote him the other night … just to say hi, see how he was. No reply. I was right.
Now, that 40- year friendship with that family is over. Her roommate also cut ties.
Just wanted assurance that this is normal. And, why people do this. Is it simply “people moving on with their lives”. It is sad, isn’t it?

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I don’t have experience of this yet. I wouldn’t be surprised if it’s “normal” as losing someone you truly love seems to suck in new and surprising ways every day. It just keeps taking.

It is really sad… I don’t understand it. Hope its not adding to your upset a lot Berit but it would upset me to have such nonsense going on. Sorry that people don’t seem able to give us what we need, even when that’s hardly anything at times. I hope you have better people who you can connect with instead. If not, then us :slight_smile:

that was a nice answer and kind. thank you. I think I am getting used to people being this way. I find it much more rare that I am impressed with others.
and it could be someone just no longer wants to talk to me! :slight_smile: oh well …

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This came into my inbox yesterday. I think we can all relate to it.

The tree test:


Some people come into your life and they are like leaves on a tree. They are only there for a season. You can’t depend on them or count on them because they are weak and only there to give you shade. Like leaves, they are there to take what they need and as soon as it gets cold or a wind blows in your life they are gone. You can’t be angry at them, it’s just who they are.


There are some people who come into your life and they are like branches on a tree. They are stronger than leaves, but you have to be careful with them. They will stick around through most seasons, but if you go through a storm or two in your life it’s possible that you could lose them. Most times they break away when it’s tough. Although they are stronger than leaves, you have to test them out before you run out there and put all your weight on them. In most cases they can’t handle too much weight. But again, you can’t be mad with them, it’s just who they are.


If you can find some people in your life who are like the roots of a tree then you have found something special. Like the roots of a tree, they are hard to find because they are not trying to be seen. Their only job is to hold you up and help you live a strong and healthy life. If you thrive, they are happy. They stay low key and don’t let the world know that they are there. And if you go through an awful storm they will hold you up. Their job is to hold you up, come what may, and to nourish you, feed you and water you.

Just as a tree has many limbs and many leaves, there are few roots.


I see. Well, after I lost my parents, I lost my roots.
My mom did show up in a dream last night. Gosh, it felt good. :blush:

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I really love this, thank you.