My wife died suddenly just over 15 weeks ago. I never realised what broken hearted meant until now. So much is missing: love, friendship and joy. I still cry often, prompted by something I hear see or think. No family nearby. How long does this last?
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I’m so very sorry for your loss Paddy❤️
Hi @Paddy,
I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling.
I’m so sorry to hear about your wife and how you are feeling. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through. We are all different and there is no timetable or grief timeline for how long it will take you.
I hope you find comfort in sharing how you’re feeling with others who understand or feel similarly to you.
Keep talking and take care,
Becca
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Hi Paddy
Sums how I feel totally
Lost my sister 9 months ago suddenly
We aren’t alone
Lots of love
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Unfortunately, not being alone doesn’t seem to make it any easier, does it? Thanks for responding.
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Hi mate,sorry for your loss,I know how you feeling,I lost my wife 16 days ago,funeral is Wednesday,it’s still raw,surreal, and like she’s going to walk through the door anytime………like I said it’s only been 16 days for me but I’m so lonely,so very lonely and I can see people are slowly disappearing,after the funeral I’m basically on my own……my wife and I had 28 wonderful years together,no children,and did everything together everything…….I miss her so much. I get up in the morning,have breakfast then I drive my car to the seaside,which is 10 minutes away,I go for a walk,I try to go at least an hour,then slowly drive home……and cry,and cry,it’s the loneliness,I don’t do nothing else all day and the sad thing is because I’m conscious of crowd’s and people seeing me walking on my own I go so early I’m back in the bloody house by 10am………I have all day just with my thoughts and I hate it,day in day out……paddy I hope it get’s better for us both.I’m only 52 and my wife was only 57, life is so so cruel
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Sorry for your loss my husband died three weeks ago . He suffered greatly over several months of such a devastating disease .
I do like you go out with my dog where I can walk with no others around when I get back that is me sat or roaming round the house wondering how I can go on
I was told today after the funeral is the time when support is most needed . I do hope you have that . I have neighbours and my daughter drives a couple of hours to visit at the week end but I can not expect her to do this . She has a life and job and family .
I always wondered when I met people bereaved on why they felt so heartbroken for so long but now I know . Grief is awful done it with my mum and dad but this is different.
If anyone is suffering do hope it gets better.
One day I know being me I will say that’s it no more get on with life but at present it is impossible to contemplate without my soul mate .
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Sorry for your loss Paddy I do hope you can find comfort as I have done with lovely people who have responded to postings.
My darling Tom died three weeks ago .
Like you tears are always there .
My family live a couple of hours away but I have nice neighbours . I have a dog they say they are a comfort but to be truthful I do not even want to go on walks having to smile and speak to people on my walks is painful.
Poor dog I walk her twice a day but usually when others are not around .
I hope we all who have losses love ones in recent days and weeks can find life easier but it just takes little things to break me at present
Let’s just have one big group hug to all xxxx
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Appreciated
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Stay strong in spirit. Paddy
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This is so hard isn’t it - just carrying on and getting through the day, filling the time or trying to. It’s only been 3 weeks for me since I lost my husband and another 2 weeks to the funeral - I’m dreading it. I hope you manage to get through your wife’s funeral and have some good support. I know it’s the afterwards though when reality hits and we so miss all the everyday routines and plans we had together for the future. I have a little dog so I have to go out for walks but I’m so jealous when I see couples out walking their dog and know I’ll never do that again …
Take care, sending hugs 
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Thank you. You take care.
Hi hope you are as well as you can be today. I know it hit me hard after my hubbys funeral .thinking of you. Xtake carex
Thank you and take care.
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