My darling brother had a massive stroke 3 weeks ago. He died Christmas morning. He was only 66 and has a 21 year old daughter. He was atheist, I am too so how the hell do I cope with this loss? Theres no where to turn, no answers, I have no one to talk to about where he’s gone and whether I will see him again. Is he going to be just a handful of ashes, no soul, no spirit just gone forever?? I cannot bear this, I stare at the churches for answers, nothing. Of course there’s nothing what do I expect??. Just gone, never to return. When you have no faith you have no support. You cannot pretend to be a believer theres absolutely nowhere to go for us. I look to nature for comfort but nothing, no sign he ever existed absolutely no signs anywhere.
I believe that there is a place our souls go to before they are reborn. Souls are together in different bodies , maybe reborn into a friend, a child etc. i believe souls are together for eternity. Do you believe in mediums ? I was very sceptical but went to one miles away from where I lived told her nothing and it was truly amazing
No I dont believe in mediums I’m afraid so no comfort there. I do however find myself looking at birds and animals in the hope my brother may have taken their form but perhaps that’s just my desperation. Thank you for replying. I didn’t expect anything.
Kings, I am so sad to hear about your darling brother and I understand completely. It is just so shocking that one minute a person can exist and then they’ve completely gone. All that character and knowledge accumulated over a lifetime - just gone. Even if you believe that there is some kind of energy that exists after the body has died, to me that is no consolation at all. Because I want my son Simon back as he was, as he looked, in his body. I want to hear his voice and his funny jokes. I want to share meals and walks with him. I want him to meet a lovely partner and have a happy long fulfilled life. The only way I can cope is by looking at photos and videos of him, and pretending that he is still alive, but it’s not enough. I share your pain.
Dear Whydidhedie, reading this is so painful. I cannot even begin to understand how you feel losing Simon your beloved son. Life is so cruel. I have a 30 year old son and he is my life. I can feel your pain and pray it somehow gets easier. They say it never goes away but you find ways of coping with it. Im so angry at losing my brother, angry for you, angry at everything. I hate New Year I wish it would go away.
Promise, thank you for that yes being a atheist doesnt help as we have nothing to hang on to. Nature usually helps me but not at this moment. Maybe it will again who knows? Sorry if im late replying i dont know how to navigate around these conversations i just press reply and hope it gets to the right person
Promise, thank you yes he loved me I know that. I wish i could see him again , his lovely face, his protection in our childhood, his positivity and zest for life. All gone but where who knows? You take care this newyears eve. Perhaps we can speak another time.?
My younger brother died on 20th Oct this year. He was 46 and had so much to look forward to. I feel broken without him and seeing the sadness in my parents is so hard to see.
A few days after he died I saw something shinning outside when I let the dog out before bed. It was a large white feather. I’ve kept it and want to believe it was a sign but I know I’m searching for prove he hasn’t just ceased to exist. I feel your pain and still find it hard to believe he’s really gone. I’m finding New Year’s Eve especially hard and seeing lots of FB posts saying happy new year is not helping. I guess it’s seeing life continuing whilst mine feels like it’s stopped.
One thing I have found helpful is to talk about him as much as I can. I hope you find some peace.
Hi Maisey, I’m so sorry to hear about your brother. I’d hang on to that feather with all my might. I was actually glad my mum and dad had already passed before my brother so I understand how you feel. I dont know what to say other than thank you for sharing that. It’s a terrible time will this pain ever go away. I hated new year so much like you did. I just want my brother to come walking into my home and say Hello folks! Thats what he always said. I miss him so much.